my ex to me to court to see our daughter and a order was made for him to see heronce a week. which her has done only now he wont pay me maintanance, so i told him if he doesnt pay he isnt seeing her, i mean why should i work my **** off to feed and clothe her so he can parade around the town saying this is my daughter and im the devoted daddy bla bla bla.
anyway i think he is now taking me back to court,if he does can i refuse to go or will i get in trouble, i have`nt stopped him seeing her really all i want is for him to pay up what he should pay then its back to normal but i cant get it in his thick head she isnt a pay per view and why should i pay for her upbringing and he get off without paying. all advice appreciated, oh by the way we are not married and he doesnt have PR
2007-02-02 21:40:48 · 5 answers · asked by s_hinard 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to take up the non payment issue with the CAB (website: http://www.csa.gov.uk/). You have no right to stop contact between your daughter and her father, even if he doesn't pay maintainance, they are seperate issues. I know it isn't very nice when you are struggling, so get in touch with the CAB as soon as possible to try and get things sorted. If you can talk to her father and work out a payment plan, it would be for the best, and might be worth a try. Good luck.
2007-02-03 23:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would take a chance and stop him seeing her if it doesn't upset her too much. at the end of the day she is the important one. Not money.
I would put a guilt trip on him by saying if you love her you would want the best for her and that costs money. Remind him that as her primary carer you can influence her in a lot of ways and that includes her choosing not to see him The courts always take the child's views into consideration that is the law.
Best of luck with this one its always hard when kids are involved because you don't want them to get hurt in the process. If its any consolation I was in a similar situation I decided not to poison my children against their Dad and now they can see how he behaved with adult eyes they don't want to know him that is their own decision made entirely by them. For me they say they appreciate the fact that I didn't let my arguments affect them and that they appreciate all that I did for them very best of luck. x
2007-02-06 04:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by mummylove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are in a difficult situation, contempt of court can be seen by some magistrates as serious, however you also have a right to state your case for child support at the next hearing, i suspect the magistrate will conceed that maintainence should be paid and may even make a ruling to that effect good luk hun
2007-02-04 08:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by harrierzero1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be using your child to get back at your partner(her father).She has rights to see her dad, not just if he pays for her upkeep either! If she is not old enough to understand whats going on,you have no rights to refuse him access.If she is old enough to make her own decisions she should be allowed to do just that! Forget about working your **** off to pay for her and concentrate on being a good mum to her, showing her how much you love her and allowing her to mature.She will make up her own mind regarding what sort of a dad is he is to her, believe me!
2007-02-06 15:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by bevalou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't pay to see your child you pay to support your child that said i understand your frustration but you are punishing your child for your ex husbands mistake carry on letting him see her and fight the problem through csa
2007-02-06 19:30:15 · answer #5 · answered by top cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋