Before about three years I talk to someone on the internet then we talked for months after that I talk to him on phone and then we meet and after about month we have sex
Today this relation finish but still effect on me because I feel guilty because my parents did not know and Iam scared from their reaction
2007-02-02 21:23:36 · 8 answers · asked by F22Girl 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You should tell your parents about this & I am sure they will forgive you. Explain what really happened & trust me after that you will feel way much better, but understand if they get emotional about this becuz they care about you & let the pain heal. Everybody makes a mistake & we learn from it. This is yours & hope you did learn something from this. Just forgive & let go. Move On & the next time around you'd make better choices in life.
2007-02-02 21:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by GerMel 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You didn't say what age you are which would have some bearing on the subject. If this happened when you were a child I think you need to tell someone to learn to cope with it. We all have things in our past we'd rather not have to think about,we just have to learn from our mistakes,don't repeat them,remind ourselves that we are a good person,never do anything to hurt anybody else as we've been hurt and move on. Why not ring the samaritans or some other counselling agency, they will comfort and advise you. You really haven't done a really bad thing at all,you know. In fact if you are very young then you haven't done anything bad at all, you just allowed yourself to be a victim,which is foolish,not bad! Pray,it really helps.
2007-02-03 05:53:15 · answer #2 · answered by SUSIE 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know your family and your house condition and their rules better. You had to think of your step, before puting it forward. Now that you have done it and you do feel you have done wrong, that is a big achivement that you did understand your mistake. But if you forget about telling your parents and just continue your life, you might feel this guilt forever in your life. I know, your parents might get very angry and upset if you let them know, but at least you wont have this feeling that they still dont know anything about it and or you have broken their blind trust on you. They might gain their trust back, if you tell them, but think if they got about it from somewhere else some day, what will go on, on them then. You will be able to continue your life far easier, if you let them know. I would suggest you should take your courage and do let them know, if not directly let them know it some other way indirectly. Blieve me you will feel your shoulders verymuch lighted then and would be very ready to continue yourlife with no more guilts' feeling.
2007-02-03 05:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by Alkahest 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its OK, in the Lords Prayer it says ... and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those that trespass against us....
this also means we must forgive ourselves.
If you are depressed just detox with lots of herb teas and fresh fruit and
Perhaps salad and raw nuts at dinner.
Do not have yeast bread or anything with yeast as it causes infection & depression etc etc. But take Olive Leaf extract to kill off the yeast fungus.
Evening Primrose oil with Fish oil will help you to be strong and make you feel happy again.
Perhaps you could go to church?
2007-02-03 05:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by luvblis 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People feel guilty only when they think They did something wrong,if you think you have done something wrong the best way is to fix it before its too late..but if you are afraid because of your parents reaction,well thats what parents do .'protect thier children' the choice is upto you ,but only you have to make that choice on you own.
2007-02-03 05:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just made a mistake. Learn from it and try to not let it happen again. If you have any issues regarding it, you could see a counselor maybe, but your sex life is your own business.
2007-02-03 05:36:49 · answer #6 · answered by Runa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What have you to be guilty about. You had a relationship including sex and it didn't work. You haven't anything to be guilty about at all. Just because you parents have this weird outlook on life, doesn't mean that you have to carry their guilt trip.
2007-02-03 05:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
maybe we meet and have sex then you forgive yourself.
2007-02-03 05:33:28 · answer #8 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋