why do people perceive me as a geeky person. how can i change?

Question

i sincerely want to change, please honestly help :)

i think the way i act is making me look geeky, so are there any particular body movements or such that is doing this?

Answer 1

Why would you want to change?

People thought I was a geek in high school. Now I'm rich, and have my pick of women (yes, that's what money is for).

Bagged a chick a few months ago, found out she's the daughter of a girl that wouldn't give me the time of day in high school. Yes, I made sure mom (and dad!) found out. I laughed long and hard - for weeks!

Answer 2

Well, you could ditch the pocket protector and eye glasses for one thing. Just kidding.

By geeky, I'm assuming you either mean awkward/clumsy, or you mean smart. If you are physically clumsy or awkward, I would say join a gym and work on your physique or join a beer league sports team. Basically just getting out and practicing your coordination. If you mean geeky as is smart, know your target audience and get familiar with the topics they're talking about. If it's the jocks (or even just regular guys), watch Sportscenter so you're up to date on what's happening in sports - the names, the hot teams, the hot button issues, etc.

The main thing to remember no matter what is you have to be comfortable with who you are before you can really expect people to accept who you are. If becoming less geeky is what you want, then more power to you. Just don't change yourself because you want to fit in with a certain clique or because you think it help you have more friends. If it's not you, any friends you make probably won't be true friends.

Answer 3

u want to change and become what ?

im assuming u are either worried about
- ur physical appearance
in that case hook up with a female frind and go shopping together girls love that, get a new haircut, if its skin problmes go see a dermatologist or beutician whatever or join a gym

- ur too smart
if so be it! being better than anyone else is what everyone strives for so if someone picks on u for that they are probably jealous. u will soon feel good abut ureself when u get agreat job and start earing the good money that u worked so hard for throughtout the years

-if its the social aspect
try to be friendly (by that i do not mean change urself to impress) that would be useless ud only be fooling urself. deep down u dont want to change. ud rather remain the same but have ppl accept you so try and work on that. talk to ppl whom u are likely o meet up again like in som club or class or something. dare to approach people ureself cant always axpect ppl to come up to u and be friendly. join some clubs or some classes that u think u will be able to mett ppl u can relate to.

Answer 4

It's just a perception thing. In the abstract, I'm a complete and total loser/geek. As a child, I avoided most sports with a passion, choosing instead to read Iliad, Odyssey and The Hobbit/LotR in my spare time. I was that kid who was so pathetic, even the nice kids used to pick on me. I was the world's most easy target.

Now, things are somewhat different. I still don't engage much in sports, but I walk places for exercise instead of a bus/car, so I'm not as pudgy as I used to be. I learned how to make my movements somewhat less awkward and it really helps if you walk straight. If you walk like you own the place (not arrogantly, just as if you deserve respect) people won't question the fact that you do. And you'd be amazed how many girls there are who actually like a guy who's literate. Being a geek gave me advantages too. I got to observe people from the outside, I learned-through observation-what makes them tick, and, perhaps most importantly, I learned what makes someone popular. It isn't because they're necessarily the coolest person, or the nicest, strongest or even someone you'd ever want to actually know. It's the belief of the people around them. Their confidence in themselves makes those around them admire them and actually believe that they may be better. Next time you look at the "in" clique watch them without thinking of them that way. You might be surprised by how many of them aren't really that different to yourself.
Oh, and try dressing differently if you are dressing badly. You should have style of some kind.

Answer 5

Geeky people often talk about things that no one else is interested in. I find they also talk too much or not enough. If you hang around people who are percieved as geeky then chances are you will be seen as geeky aswell.

Maybe you have moving too fast, make your actions deliberate and slow. Stand up straight, smile and don't look down.
Confidence is everything
Remember you can be whoever you want to be.
The less geeky things you do, the less geeky you will be.

Bria

Answer 6

To change from a geeky person you have to become more casual in clothing, eyewear. You can still be yourself with regards to movements. Try to be interested in others, helpful without being overbearing. Shorten the speeches, give the other person time to respond without loading the time with only your comments. Sincerely try to stay away from subjects that may boor others.

Answer 7

Geeks have never been more popular in society than they are now. Confidence is probably the only thing you need to work on to be successful.

Answer 8

Good question from a geek.

Try to learn how to become a number one politician.

To begin with
"Man is by nature a political animal"- Aristotle

More at
http://politicalspecialist.blogspot.com/

Answer 9

Why change?
In another 20 years, all of the jocks will be your employees.

Answer 10

Just be yourself Jason. Plenty of girls like geeks!