I’m 32yrs from Africa and she is 28yrs from UK. We were both engaged in a relationship as fiancé & fiancée and I left my country to join her in UK.
In UK I felt in love with her, cause she was my first fiancée and before to that, I never dated or talked with girls and neither had a girlfriends, so frankly speaking I did not have an experience on what is love, feelings, attraction, excitements & romance, and for which all I wanted to share/show/experience with her, but it seems that she was ignoring & not spending time with me and always left me behind in every corners…
She (fiancée) already knew, quickly in two (2) months that I am in love with her….
But after passing of 3 to 4 months in UK I could not able to understand/know her whether she (fiancée) loves me or not, I always having hard time with her and whether did she had any feelings or attraction on me or not.
And naturally I got fears and always felt afraid of her and her dad & mum as she always speak sharp tone to me and complains to her parents that leads to a big fights.
And I finally broke and ended the relationship because I was too scare & afraid of her and I got that obvious thinking and feelings in my mind that if I marry her (fiancée) and I would not able to get an erraction(hard penis) in the first sweet night…and as she will goes and complain it to her mum or family members..??
Dear all I am asking you if doubted or misconception by her & her family what would be happen to me in term of my manhood/dignity & respect? Will she always going to tone me in entire life that I(you) failed in the first night.
Do you all thing that I did the right thing to break/end above relation. And do you still think that at my this age of 32yrs I will able to get another sweet girl and at what age she should be…please help me here…I am very sad and I feel that I shouldn’t love at first place???.
2007-02-02 21:08:28 · 6 answers · asked by Vips_5 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
at that moment when you were brake your relationship with that girl you were thing that this is right and almost always the first reaction is right, but your scare about your first night are not justified because the women knows that every man has same times problem with erection and the last thing what she will do is to complain to her parents.
Finally a may say you that on this world there is someone some-there who is waiting for you. You only have to find out her. Good luck!
2007-02-08 01:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by yoshi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please this girl isn't sweet. She almost scared you out of your manhood. When you are in a relationship, you don't run to your parents, you work it out between the two of you. If you married her and was not able to perform sexually, she will hold it over your head each time you get into an argument. Stay away from her. You should find someone that will grow with you, become friends with you and really love you and not give you a hard time. If you fall in love with a woman and she love you, you won't have to worry about not getting a erection, you will be hard for her all the time. Get away from her and find out what you really want in a woman. If you don't leave her you won't have any dignity, respect or manhood. Why are you so worried about not getting an erection? Do you have a problem with getting hard? If so go to a doctor and tell him what you are feeling and he can help you, it could be all in your mind.
2007-02-09 15:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes u were definately right to end the relationship. U should never feel afraid of your significant other.
2007-02-10 06:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by beautiful 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes get out of this mess. you just hit by one mean *****. i am not saying all arelike that. you will find someone you are only 32 that is young. you will find someone who is honest and ready for you. When there is love on both sides there is no fighting and stuff its nice and peaceful. you will see and be happy good luck
2007-02-09 18:00:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have self belief me in case your having doubts about a courting the nget out merely like you probably did. Now you adore that different woman so marry her. merely undergo in ideas, pay interest to me and each and every thing will be o.k..
2016-11-02 04:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by dembinski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you could have made that work.
I don't think wedding night jitters are a realistic worry.
2007-02-07 20:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋