We recently had to terminate when i was 14 weeks, due to complications to the baby, downsyndrome and the doctor said it will only pass away anyway. I am worried it will happen again and i dont want to have to go through it all again as it was very heart breaking. I am only 27 and have 1 other child.
2007-02-02 21:05:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
of course you try again. i had a miscarraige and was scared to try again. but i wasn't happy before i got pregnant again. now everything seems fine and i am happy though i still think about the bad things that could happen to me.
but yes, if i had to be in your situation i wouldn't let that one time spoil my life. i know how sorry you are and in some way i can understand you because i had a lose also. i still think about the lose i had, my little angle and i have named him also, and i think how he would have been and so on. But life goes on.
And also it doesn't mean because the last baby had complications, the next one will be same. He is an angel and is in heaven, happy with other babies. And another baby will replace some of your sadness.
You are still young and already have a proof that you have a normal child, so go for it.
Try to be strong, i know its hard, but eventually another pregnancy will make you happy!
Good luck and God Bless you.
2007-02-02 22:06:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry about your baby. You sound like you truly want another child, and I think you should try for it based on what you've said because I'm assuming your first pregnancy was healthy and normal. Of course, you should make sure that the doctors agree that they don't anticipate more complications, and you should definitely give yourself enough time to grieve and recover from the loss of the baby. But like I said, it sounds like you really want another baby, and it's not like you're anywhere near this stage, but the day will come when you're past the prime age for being a new mom and I have a feeling you'll regret it if you don't try again.
Hope this helps :)
2007-02-03 05:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is to adopt. It sounds like you care a lot and want another child...why put yourself & your husband through all the anxiety of worrying if the baby will be okay? Can you emotionally handle another loss? Hopefully, everything would be great, but there is the possibility of it not being great.
There are so many children in the world who are thrown away to "the system" and need to be loved. Talk to your husband about adopting. I know we are going to adopt our 2nd and 3rd child. Good Luck in whatever you choose.
2007-02-03 06:59:45 · answer #3 · answered by steffers4979 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry about your loss first off. If you think you are ready for another baby then I say go for it, it is a decision you and your man will have to make. The doctors can also tell you if your body is ready to handle another baby depending on how long ago this incident happened.
2007-02-03 05:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by jasmyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is for you and your man to decide, sweetie.
I'm so sorry for what you have been through, but what have doctors said about the likelihood of this recurring? You should really make an appointment with a doctor and really talk through all your fears, or consider some counselling?
2007-02-03 05:19:11 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I have a multiply handicapped daughter. She has been a real challenge as well as a blessing. Sorry about your loss. The decision to have another child should be between you and your husband, not a bunch of computer idiots.
2007-02-03 05:15:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
What's the hurry? You obviously need more time to heal. Your still young so wait a while. Talk to your doc. was it a genetic condition? Pregnancy is a risk you take and if your baby is healthy, it's a blessing but I suggest take more time to heal and thank god your other child is okay.
2007-02-03 05:13:51 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you want another child. Sorry for your loss.
2007-02-03 05:09:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right, sorry bout baby
2007-02-03 05:54:48 · answer #9 · answered by Alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋