ok so heres the story i'm goin out wit my besti dylan but my other besti jess likes dylan too. and i'm worried how shes gonna react. because i haven't seen her for a couple of months since me and dylan have been goin out. and no ones told her and now me and dylan r gettin serious and he wants sex and i do too, but i'm worried i mean the condom could break or anything.
what should i do about all this i mean how do i tell jess?
2007-02-02 19:25:57 · 12 answers · asked by taytaymm28 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
and dis question is for like 13-20 yr old plz
2007-02-02 19:26:55 · update #1
hey starrwood watever how do u know how o,ld i am?
2007-02-02 20:30:39 · update #2
13-20 doesn't necessarily mean i am 13
2007-02-02 20:33:51 · update #3
ok i am not 13! i am 15 and a half thanks. i said 13 yr old cause my friend goes on here and she is 13 and people say like only mature people from 16+ and it annoyes her and it annoyes me! thats y i said it k?
2007-02-02 20:38:57 · update #4
only you can know when you are truly ready and if your having second thoughts you probably aren't completely ready. as for your friend she will get mad but get over it
2007-02-03 04:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well Hun if you really like the guy then who cares what your friend thinks, if she is a really your Friend she will understand that you like him and he likes you. Now on to the sex note, i don't know how old you are but I'm thinking its closer to the 13 range cause you will except a 13 year olds answer. I personally think that you are too young to have sex, i lost my virginity at 17 and I'm not sure that was the right age for me. I now am about to be 21 with a 2 year old son and i am a single mother struggling to make it on my own and sweetie sex is a big decision and cant be made on a soft heart you need to think, are you ready for this is this the person you wanna give that part of yourself to, is he worth it? and if you are having any doubts let him know and if he really cares about you then he will wait, most guys are only out for one thing baby girl. and you have to make sure that they care about you and not what you can give them. also what if the condom does break and you end up pregnant how do you plan on supporting your child? do you work? could you move out right now and be able to pay your own bills and then here in a few months add on about $100 or so more a week for everything your child needs. Don't think that you can depend on a boy cause i can tell you from my own life, no matter how much they say they love you or that they will stay for the baby its not always a gonna happen that way i have been alone since my son was born. I don't want you to have to go through this sweetie just think b4 you act.
2007-02-03 03:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jeremysmom05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, Jess WILL find out one way or another that you two are dating. I think it is probably better she hears it from you than from some stranger (I have been there...). Tell her that you guys started dating a few months ago, but you kept it private because you weren't sure where it was going to go to. Tell her in the last few weeks it has gotten serious and you are telling people that you are dating now. If she gets mad, she will prolly get over it. After all, there is no point being mad about him liking you if he doesn't like her.
Secondly, just to be safe you should go on the pill AND use a condom. If both of them are about 98% effective, then you will have twice the protection. People who say to wear two condoms (which I have seen in other, similar posts) are idiots. Condoms are not designed to be worn on top of each other and although, true, if one breaks the other won't, the chances of it falling off are REALLY high.
Good luck!
2007-02-03 06:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't seen her in a couple of months, and you are that young, she is probably over it by now. Just be honest. Tell her how it is. If you and Dylan like each other than that is how it is. If she has a problem with it then you have to decide what you want more, friendship or a boyfriend.
2007-02-03 03:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by serenitynow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell Jess how you feel about Dylan and if she's a true friend she will accept it. try to be a little settle with it. and as far as the condom breaking use birth control or go to a drug store and purchase spermicide. you apply it two hrs before having sex and it kills sperm instantly preventing you from getting pregnant, but it does not protect you from any STD"s . so talk to your GYN first before going any further.
2007-02-03 03:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by diamondu12003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't know about you but 15 is too young to be having sex. as for your friend you just have to tell her the truth if she's a real friend she'll be angry but won't leave you. tell Dylan that you're too young and don't sleep with him unless you are prepared to suffer the consequences if anything is to go wrong. you've been warned but i hope you make the right decision
2007-02-03 10:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U are to immature for sex... Plz dont do it.. Yes condoms can break especaily if you dont put it on properly.. and as for ur friend.. Just tell her.. it will hurt her MORE in the long run if u dont tell.. Well if u do have sex.. and u do get preggers.. well.. U can always tell her when u give her a baby shower invite...
Sorry I know that seems harsh..
2007-02-03 03:31:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, with sex...thats just the risk you take. Do what you want, you only live once. Your friend Jessi might not be so accepting at first, but if she realizes this all happend because she hasnt been around then I'd say she'll come to understand. Dont tell Jessi...wait for her to ask...Did he tell you that you had to tell her?
2007-02-03 03:29:26 · answer #8 · answered by kev s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave jess out of it and no sex, you are way too young, its not so much the condom but the fact that having sex changes you and you cant go back. give yourself time to grow up.
2007-02-03 03:30:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
explain to her that your really serious about him and that your sorry but your really crazy about him and if shes a true friend she will understand
if you ready your ready go for it just make sure you really are though
can you help meh with my ?'s
2007-02-03 03:29:43 · answer #10 · answered by ASHLEE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋