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Ok well im 14 and i have a bedtime of 11 pm and it really sux......see i can get up no matter how late i go to bed....but parents dont understand us..........give him a chance to make his own bedtime and see how that goes.........if he can get up on his own then you no hes responsible...........when parents do silly crap like givee us bedtimes it makes us feel like YOU DICTATE every single part of our life.......like were not living our own life your living it for us ( choosing our clothes,food,bedtime,tv shows,schoool to go to,who to hang out with,curfew..) That stuff makes us want to rebel......give him some space i mean set boundries but let him do a little more of what he wants.......The best years of your life are suppose to be your childhood ......... and that cant happen if you guys always choose thangs for us........Let him do what he wants for a while and see how it goes.....i guarentee he'll be more open and will probably make smart choices on his own!!!!!!!

Answer 1

I am a parent of 3 kids. I have a 12 yr old boy who will be 13 in May, I also have a 5 yr old boy and then I have a 1 & 1/2 month old daughter.

I can completely understand where you are coming from even though I, myself, am a parent. I was raised VERY strict Irish Catholic. I was not allowed to watch Mtv or even listen to music by Madonna. My parents were HORRIBLY strict!! I too was not allowed to pick out my own clothes, bedtime, tv, music, ect. I was NOT close to my parents and they never really talked to me about important issues. Most of what I learned about life came from my friends. And yes, I did rebel... SO MUCH! How could I not, I was suffocated. And actually when I did move out it was as if a weight had been lifted from my shoulders. I was miserable with my parents.

Now, let me also say, as a parent of 3 kids, I have taken lessons from what I was raised with. As for my children... I do have set bedtimes for them during school nights, but on weekends or vacations there is no set time. I do allow them to choose their own clothes and how they want to wear their hair. I am EXTREMELY close with my kids and talk very openly with them. They all know, especially my 13 yr old, that they can come to me with ANYTHING and I will be understanding and listen as well as guide them. As far as tv or video games go, I do monitor. Regarding TV if it is something they really want to watch I will either watch it first or watch it with them and then if needed talk to them about anything I may have been uneasy with. Video games are a bit different, I am a gamer myself and will play right along side of them, BUT there are a few games that I just will not budge on. I trust my children very much and also I trust that the relationship and lessons I have taught them over the years will influence the decisions they make. NOW, by no means am I expecting them to be perfect and always make the right decision because we are all human and we all make mistakes. I also show my children that parents aren't always perfect or have all the answers either. When I make a mistake I will own up and we talk about it.

Now I do see both sides, and being a suffocated child I understand. But also know they love you VERY much and are trying to raise you in the best ways they know how. There is no manual for being parents you just try your best to raise your children right. But yes to answer your question... I agree with you they do need to put some trust in their child and see how that goes. Not only will the child rebel... BUT ALSO the child will have a rude awakening when they do become an adult and enter the real world. They need to learn resposibility, life experiences and make their mistakes while their parents are still there to guide them and back them.

Answer 2

You may be able to wake up no matter what time you go to bed, but the fatigue will catch up to you. You will not be able to focus in school, you will be moody, lack of sleep can even cause weight gain. You are only 14 yrs old. If you're going to be moody and ill all the time, I'm sure you're parents don't want to put up with that. If they are paying for your food, your cable, your clothes, etc. then they should be able to decide for you. When you are able to pay all of the bills, on your own, is when you should be able to make these decisions for yourself. I live in a neighborhood where too many of the parents have let their children " Make their own decisions" More than half of my friends from my childhood, are in prison right now, some are even dead. After seeing what "freedom" has done to them, I think that every parent should monitor everything that their children do. If my friends' parents had cared as much as your parents, they would still be here today. My parents let me make my own choices as well, I've never tried drugs, I've never drank, and I've never smoked, or been in trouble. But they let me make the decision to quit school when I was 15, that was the biggest mistake of my life, I wish my parents had been firm and strict. I wish I would have been able to go to prom, or to graduate. But I didn't, because my parents let me choose. Be a child, because before too long you will be an adult, and you too will one day have children that you have to make these decisions for.

Answer 3

NO YOU ARE COMPLETELY WRONG! And talking like a typical 14 year old kid, which is why any parent with brains keeps a short leash on you. When you live in your parents house you go by your parents rules. Honestly in my life I have met very few parents who the heartless cretins that kids your age think they are. You are 14, you don't know chit. You don't even know what is good for you. you are wet behind the ears. Parent's should by all rights never let you out of their sights, because they were once your age too and they know how you think and how irresponsible you all are. However parent's are almost always more than generous with their kids. They feed you, cloth you, give you money, take you places, buy you things, and they do it because they love you. When you get older you will understand that your parents in most cases are just about the best friends you will ever have in your life.

Answer 4

NO you are not right, you are WRONG. Children need a bedtime. My daughter is 14 almost 15 yrs old & her bedtime is 9:00 & I don't hear her complaining. What do you think parents are for? We are the ones that are suppose to give you rules to follow until you are old enough to move out. Even then children make the wrong choices. Accept that you are a child & your parents make the rules.

Answer 5

Until you graduate high school, go to college, get a job and move out on your own, paying your own bills, THEN you'll have more say in your life. Sort of the way the cookie crumbles. It's a parent's responsibility to raise law-abiding, contributing members of society. And that takes time and patience. Sure teens rebel and fight along the way, but it's because their judgement skills aren't quite skilled yet. Teens make mistakes, sure, that's part of the growing process, but sometimes they're serious mistakes and your life is ruined. Parents just want their kids to have the best in life, the best future possible. We know the road of life ahead, the potholes, the curves, the dips. We're just trying to kee you from crashing.

Answer 6

So, you think that the kid should be able to come and go as he chooses, watch porn on TV, and hang out with any slacker or druggie that he wants to. There is a reason why parents make these decisions for their children. It's because they are PARENTS, not your best bud, and they are trying to make sure that their CHILDREN make it to adulthood.
You know what a lot of teachers complain about? It's that a lot of students come to school and fall asleep during class because they haven't gotten enough sleep. So, you want to join this crowd? Aren't you grateful that your parents want you to actually know what's going on in your classes?
I don't know your parents, of course, so I don't know if they are unreasonably strict, but at least they care enough to actually pay attention to you. I can tell you that there are plenty of kids who never see their parents except when they get home from work or partying late at night and these parents never want to "damage their kid's ego" or "lose their kid's love" by setting any kind of boundary.
If you want more freedom then set down with your parents and let them know that they can trust you to be reasonable about your bedtime, that you will let them meet the people you keep as friends, that you won't dress like a tramp, and that you would like to agree to a time range that is agreeable to the both of you as to when you must be home, especially on weekends. Fourteen is still too young for you to be doing just anything you want but it is old enough so you should be learning how to manage yourself and your time. Try and work with them so that you don't have to be on such a short leash.
By the way, I thought the district decided which school you went to, not your parents. If you want to go to a special school to further your ambitions why don't you discuss this with your parents also?

Answer 7

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Answer 8

You need enough rest every night, and you need to get up early for school. That is the thing about the bedtime...

About clothes: you have to dress like what you are (meaning a 14 years old girl who goes to school, and has her constrictive friends), not like a little girl that is desperate to call for attention.

Your parents need to know your friends because they want to know if they are taking you at harmful choices or if they are a bad peer pressure to you. If they are not, they will let you go with them.

Answer 9

This is why you are the child and they are the parents. You have plenty of time to "do what you want" when you turn 18. You have a bedtime of 11pm.....DEAL WITH IT! If you want to be treated like an adult,then you need to be responsible and mature like an adult. Complaining about your bedtime is not very mature and responsible. Your parents have the right to set whatever rules they want to. If you don't like it......TOUGH! It drives me nuts the way kids complain about the stupidest things. Just be glad that you have parents that actually do care about you. Kid, you have a lot to learn......and I mean A LOT!

Answer 10

Are you aware that your brain will not be finished developing until you are in your early- to mid- twenties, and that as long as your pre-frontal cortex is not finished maturing you will see the world and have opinions that are far different than they will be when your pre-frontal cortex has matured?

Your childhood and teen years aren't the best years of your life. The best years of your life will happen when you grow up and can have the life you want and not be told what time to go to bed. You have that to look forward to. In the meantime, your parents don't want you to get run down and sick from getting five hours' sleep a night just because you think you don't need sleep. (Are you aware that teenagers need - like - ten hours sleep a night really, and if a person doesn't get as much sleep as he needs he can lower his immune system's ability to fight off disease?) If you get sick with some illness that you wouldn't have gotten if you got enough sleep the doctor will know that your parents didn't make you go to bed at a certain time, and your parents could get charged with something like neglect.

If your grades aren't all excellent in school one of the first things teachers think is that a kid isn't getting enough sleep; and who gets to explain that? Not you. Your parents.

The law says your parents' legal responsibility is to make sure you get some version of enough sleep, that you have nutritious food to eat, and that they do what they think they need to do in order to keep you from getting sick, getting in trouble, or flunking in school.

Part of being your age is that you are going to feel like you cannot live your life the way you wish you could. Your day will come, but it isn't for a few years. 14 and 15 - in my opinion - are probably the worst years of your life because you're old enough to want to be doing certain things but not old enough to do them.

What you don't realize is that when parents let a kid your age do what he wants to do for even a while even the most sensible kid will make some choices that could cause serious problems in ways he won't even know about until its too late. When parents let their young teenagers do what they want I can pretty much guarantee that the vast majority of times that happens a big disaster occurs.

Your parents want to get you safely and healthily to being grown up so that you will be able to make your own decisions. You're at a frustrating age right now, but some day if you ever have a kid you're age you will look back and laugh at the things you think right now. Hang in there, and trust me, your parents at this point would like nothing better than to know you were all safely grown up and not at the beginning of some of the most tumultuous years of a teenager's maturation process.