It was on four separate occasions, I now know. I don't see why I would trust him again. Certainly I feel furious, violated, no privacy, etc. Can I get over this and how?
2007-02-02 18:44:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
In my experience, when men do stuff like that it's because there trying to find something on you to lessen the guilt they feel for doing something they shouldn't have. If you marry him it will only get worse not better, only then it'll be harder to get out of the relationship. Think about if you can live with this for the rest of your life. Good luck.
2007-02-02 18:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow! I'm really surprised at the answers you've gotten so far. I think you're going a little overboard when you say "I don't see why I would trust him again." What's the big deal? Yes, that's your stuff and he shouldn't have gone through it, but you are going to marry this guy, right? Don't you think you should talk to him about what he did? Ask him why he felt the need to go through your personal things without asking and reassure him that you love him and are not doing anything you shouldn't. Feeling violated and furious are over-the-top reactions. Relax a little. Why are you so upset that he did this? Is there something you don't want him to find?
2007-02-03 02:59:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Girlfriend...anyone can advise you as to what you should do...and I think by your question that you want someone to tell you a specific answer to make it easier for you to do so. However, you know in your heart that you have to make the decision. I can only state objectively that to make a marriage last for 50+ years, your initial foundation requires honesty. Honesty is key. All else is secondary.
On another note, you deserve the very best in life as each day is a gift. Think about the last 30 days. Out of the last 30 days, how many days would you mark with an "X" for happy and content...and how many would you mark with an "O" for sad and dissappointed? Make sound choices that will bring you happiness each day. You are responsible for your own happiness.
I wish you all the very best.
2007-02-03 02:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by Amy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to get over it? Your fiance is the one with the problem----like a major trust issue. You really should remember that marriage does not make things better, it just exasurbates everything. Usually the ones who don't trust are the ones who are not to be trusted. Good Luck and there are alot of fish in the sea! Take Care and be Happy!
2007-02-03 02:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by kimberlee g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What he did is inexcusable. I can't speak for you but I would never trust an insecure person like that again so for me there would be no sense in keeping the relationship going.
I have been married for 40 years plus and my wife and I don't open each other's mail. If done by accident, we apologize.
2007-02-03 02:52:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the base of all relationships. He doesn't trust you, and you certainly can't trust him.
Show him the door and don't look back. Don't even try to get over this, it will only get worse.
2007-02-03 02:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Rut 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me you shouldn't marry this guy, reason being you shouldn't have "personal" files if your gonna be with some one for the rest of your life you should feel comfortable telling that person your deepest darkest secret the things your most embarrassed of.If you don't feel comfortable with him looking through your phone and he knows it he'll think your hiding something.
2007-02-03 03:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by wow_whataguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because as you stated you might not be able to trust he again. why would he not trust you? if you have not dont anything wrong then, usually when the other person has something to hide the act like your the one cheating
2007-02-03 06:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by misseshodges 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think i could trust someone that was always checking up on me. But have u asked him why hes doing this?
2007-02-03 04:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by Fire S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean Ex- fiance ?
Take a look at your future.
2007-02-03 02:54:39 · answer #10 · answered by elliebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋