People say why do I run from reality, what am I running from I really dont know in particular but in general the cruel cruel
world. I guess one reason I havent put myself out there to make friends is because I have had some bad experiences in the friend world. Back in grammar
school I had this group of friends and one by one they all started to transfer to different schools and move to different states. Do you see my luck and I have been pretty much alone and avoidant ever since.
2007-02-02 18:23:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
thanks for sharing that with the group, but we are still going to have to keep you isolated for another term, sorry shiela~~
2007-02-07 11:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by wild1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you have abandonment issues you are afraid or refuse to meet new people because you are afraid they will leave you anyway so why bother. Pu t yourself out there make some friends your not in grammar school anymore it's time to put that period of your life behind you and move on. I know how you feel i moved around alot when i was going through school and never did make that long lasting bond where your friends from kindergarten on and even after moving back to the place where I went to kindergarten the kids I hung out with either have moved away or they aren't the same people that you remember them to be. Join a group or organization that you believe in and make some friends that way Good-luck.
2007-02-03 02:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by Katprsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta keep trying. I had my best friend (the one I had at the time) move away three times from 1st through 8th grade. To quote "You Wouldn't Believe" by 311:
A million people come and go
Through a persons ebb and flow
And faces keep on changing
While there changing
A certain few will stay in tact
When they're not they'll don an act
I know this important fact
Don't get confused like
2007-02-03 02:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by Son of a Mitch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're avoiding loss. I know how it feels. My family moved around a lot, and I went to 20 different schools before I finally graduated. Couldn't keep friends. Now I have a demon of a time getting close to people, and when I do, it scares me big time. It seems like the ones I get close to, I hang on to for dear life, and sometimes I end up smothering them. I'm working hard on that. I don't want to make people feel like they can't breathe because I'm grafted onto them, but I don't want to keep people away either.
2007-02-03 02:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by cruztacean1964 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably running away from the same thing I'm running away from. You've been hurt in the past and feel like anyone that was close to you seemed to abandon you. You're just scared to get close to another person because you feel they may leave you or disappoint you in some way. Unfortunately, it takes time to overcome that. You just have trust issues and you have a wall built up that people are trying to knock down to get close to you.
I hope everything works out for you.
2007-02-03 02:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure.. only you will be able to answer that.. I could go on and on.. but then again.. Im in a mental hospital.. I asked that very same question.. a few to many times I guess.. padded rooms are cool..3 squares a day.. 4 "goofy" shots every 2 days.. I've really picked this typing with my toes thing.. up.. pretty good I must say..
2007-02-03 02:29:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps trying to avoid disappointment and getting hurt again...
'"luck"' can change. sometimes in life, it's a good thing to swallow your (social anxiety?) and take a deep breath, get back out and try meeting some new friends.
I'm pretty much a loner, too, but make a point of taking certain opportunies when I can, at the very least try meeting new people. it aint the easiest thing to do, but it is possible. your luck doesn't have to stay the same.. you can change it : )
best of luck to ya.
2007-02-10 22:19:35 · answer #7 · answered by Auntie M. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see what you mean. It seems to me that I get discouraged because whenever I make plans with someone, something always comes up and we don't get together. My birthday is coming up, and my friend is called out of town for his job. It makes me want to quit trying because I end up feeling very alone and disappointed. Hang in there, and maybe our luck will change. Best of luck to you!!
2007-02-03 02:30:47 · answer #8 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know one day you will regret never getting out there and experiencing life. I think that life is too short to dwell on the past. Make friends go out and have fun.
2007-02-03 02:28:59 · answer #9 · answered by ?Erroneous? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well lala i think that your situation is pretty simple i think that it is because you are afraid to take risk you can't be cool with someone until you look inside yourself. I think that you are afraid of losing ppl i was once that way but i have changed i am still cautious about who i tell everything to but i have atleast one person that understands me and i am pretty sure you have the same okay if you have any further questions contact me
2007-02-04 00:53:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry too much about what people say. You will never run away from your own reality and theirs really isn't your problem.
2007-02-11 00:15:21 · answer #11 · answered by p_doell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋