Being a short man, and dating, in today's society?

Question

By reading some responses to various questions on this site and from real life experience, I have gathered that both tall and short women despise short men.

Is dating that much harder for shorter men (under 5'9)?

Is this really the case, or are those just "ugly" and "insecure" girls?

Answer 1

my bf is 5'6" and i'm one inch taller...but we seen to do just fine. He is confident and so am I.

Answer 2

I actually think this question, although chauvinist at times, brings up some very interesting points about equality. Men are expected to be the bread winners, to fix the broken things, to maintain the car etc... of course there may be exceptions but this is generally the sentiment. Men are expected to pay for movies and dates, women eat it up sometimes... men would too if the roles were reversed. Men are expected to have the higher paying jobs and to be primary support for the family. But if a man expects that a woman fulfill any of the stereotypical roles for her gender then the man is being sexist or chauvinistic. I get what you are saying man. But this does not mean that we as men are at any disadvantage when you look at women's rights from a broader view point.

Answer 3

people can be like cows. they are socialized in a certain way without really questioning it.

being short is tough because it cuts 2 ways:

1. there is a stigma against being short

2. being short brings out all kinds of insecurities in other people because of the #1 stigma.

for example: a tall guy will feel intimidated by a short guy who is
better than the tall guy in a given area (that's why they are so quick
to point out a napoleon complex or put them down). and it's so bad for the tall guy because tall guys are expected to be better at everything. it's like, for a guy being outmatched by girl is embarrassing. some people can't deal with it.

for short girls who are already insecure about their height; there is a need to compensate for that by dating taller men. however, their insecurities about their own height would be reinforced and intensified by being with a short guy. they can't hide behind a taller person and there own height becomes glaringly evident.

i'm short. i didn't even realize it was an issue until people started giving me grief about it and it's taken me a minute to figure out why. people have delicate egos...

i haven't had too much trouble dating. i think it's important to have charm, be fun and be a good person.

with women, i thinks it's always important to be a good kisser and be good in bed. if you can satisfy a woman, she will want to stay around for more.

Answer 4

I think it's more difficult for short men to get a date. My boyfriend is 5'6 and I'm 5'8 and I was always "for" dating taller men because that's what "I" prefer. It took me a long time to think about being in a relationship with my boyfriend because i wanted to date someone taller. We've known each other for 7 years and of the 7 yrs he asked me out for 5 yrs and I denied. Until I finally gave in and now we're together for 2 years. It took me 2 wks to do some hard thinking about whether or not I could tolerate a shorter guy before saying yes. And now am inlove.... but I still, in the back of my mind wished he were taller.

Answer 5

I'll tell ya...I'm a 6-foot tall woman and I dated a guy who was 5'6". I don't despise "short" men, per se, but...

I *do* despise short men who seem to have a chip on their shoulder about their height...and there are a lot of them out there. Men who think that because they're shorter than "normal" (whatever the heck that is) then they have to be louder, more obnoxious, more in-your-face, just to get the same attention as guys who are closer to 6-feet tall.

Frankly, if a guy is smart, funny, doesn't take himself too seriously (but isn't a clown), is confident (but not egotistical), and treats me well, I could care less how tall he is. Or whether he's skinny or heavy, hairy or bald, rich or poor.

My advice to shorter men: The women who are worth pursuing are the ones who won't judge a man on their looks. If they do, they're shallow and very likely insecure about their own looks, and not worth the time of day.

Believe me, at 6-feet tall myself, I've been judged plenty because of my height, and not all of it good. The phrase "Quality, not quantity" applies here too.

Answer 6

heh.heh. Perhaps they are just ugly and insecure girls but there are ladies like me that are 5' 2" that most men are taller anyhow.

You've surely heard this before, but women look for the following in a man:

intelligence
ambition
genuine kindness and caring
witty sense of humor
sense of style
confidence
good looks

Answer 7

Yeh i guess it is hard being a shorter man, as the social stereo type of the perfect man is tall. But I find heaps of shorter guys attractive. I am 5'10 so I would prefer a taller man, or someone close enough to my own height, but I have nothing against shorter men per se. I guess most women want someone who is like them. Apparently human beings are just naturally attracted to human beings who share similar physical traits. So if you are tall, you want tall, and if you are shorter you want someone of a similar height.

Answer 8

I'm not tall enough to complain about a guy's height, but there is a stigma to be overcome.

The word short though tends to imply negativity.

Answer 9

Generally speaking girls want a guy to be taller than them so they can feel secure and protected. Short men can easily get girls but they are likely to be shorter than them. In my opinion it looks funny when the girl is taller than the guy and she doesnt have heels on.

Answer 10

You might find out that some of those "ugly" and "insecure" girls are nice ppl (with feelings too).