I'm wondering what others think about my wanting to raise children again, after the age of 45. I have 2 wonderful children who are now in their 20's, but my heart is aching to do this a second time with the right person. I know this would need to be with someone who's heart also aches for this, surely not alone. . I would love to know what others think of this. Thanks so much for your thoughts.
2007-02-02 17:33:37 · 9 answers · asked by CHERI * 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
From what I've read it is extremely difficult to concieve at our age.(I'm 46). I was real surprised to read what a difference there was in egg viability just between say 42 and 45.
So this may be a moot point in the first place, even with fertility drugs.
Secondly, are you certain you want to be tackling teenagers in your 60's? Parent teacher conferences, possible teen pregnancies or drug use in high school?
Remeber how they used to drag home every virus and sniffle from grade school? Remember lice checks?
One thing that is very very different from when ours were small is that so many parents are not as involved with their kid's lives as they used to be because all the moms have to work. Day care places just cannot discipline the kids like a parent can, so more of these kids are out of control at school. When there is a problem between those kids and yours, are you ready to deal with some parents that are so busy getting defensive that they can't or wont believe little jason is picking on your kid? Much less accountability than there used to be. The village raising the children is dead.
If you feel ready for the reality, apart from the romance then go for it, but make sure it's for the right reasons.
It sounds like you're a real loving person, but there's something about the way you say "aching" that makes it sem kinda desparate.
( I don't mean to hurt your feelings with this.)
The incidence of down's syndrome is way higher at our age, btw. In a woman in her 20's it's like 1 in 10, 000. Our age it's 1 in 92, I think I read...
2007-02-02 17:58:21 · answer #1 · answered by Cynthia D 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I think that if you are in a happy and stable relationship with someone, this desire should be turned into a reality! My mother and father had my little sister when they were in their early 40's, and they do not regret it for a second. What are the pros and cons? Would it be a biological child or adopted? You need to consider your options and assess your lifestyle. You said your kids are 20 now, so you have been relatively free from child-rearing issues for a bit. Do you want to give up some freedoms? It certainly is worth it if you KNOW that you want a baby. Do you have the time/energy to devote to a crying baby at 2 am? These are the questions you should be asking yourself. Babies are the most wonderful things. Their unconditional love is truly amazing, and is a totally consuming experience. If you decide that your lifestyle can support (not talking financially, but emotionally and physically as well) a baby, then I don't think anyhting should stop you from achieving your dream. Good Luck!!!
2007-02-02 17:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It makes life so hard when we live by the opinion of others! While sometimes the opinion of others is needed but in actuality we have already made up our minds anyway. We some how just look for the approval of others. Do what makes your life happy because when you look around others will live theirs the way they will
2007-02-02 17:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by roach killer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think there is nothing wrong with two ppl your age having a baby together i think it would be great i know ppl who are older then you and they just had a baby its a great expirence always there to keep you company and show love go for it it will be another great experience
2007-02-02 17:37:09 · answer #4 · answered by britt b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait a few years and maybe you will have grandchildren you can babysit. The nice thing about grandchildren, you can love them, spoil them, and send them home.
2007-02-02 17:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would definitely say Go For It!!!!Bring another angel into the world! ;)
2007-02-02 17:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My wife is due in June. I'm 42. I can't wait.
2007-02-02 17:35:56 · answer #7 · answered by tranquility_base3@yahoo.com 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go for it and good luck to you
2007-02-02 17:36:25 · answer #8 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If thats what you really want then go for it.
2007-02-02 17:35:59 · answer #9 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋