2007-02-02 17:07:18 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there are quite a few reasons life changes dramatically
1- you have to deal with where you/them will live. Someone will have to make a new home for themselves, different from the daily routine they were so used to.
2-you have to figure out bills and money situations now that your no longer handling it together, with two incomes.
3-most likely you will have to split things up like houses and cars and such. it takes time and raises arguments.
4-if you have kids you have to work extra hard to keep their lives as normal and healthy as possible. You have to figure out who will see the kids and when they will see them. You will need to figure out child support and where the kids will live. You will also have to figure out what you will do with them while you are at work, b/c you dont have your spouse to be at home or routinely available to pick them up or make dinner etc etc
5-the emotions im sure are tough. you get used to living your life a certain way and one day its just totally different. You might not be used to sleeping alone, or not having someone to call during the day, or talk to at home.
there are alot of reasons but i think that most hindering would be the general change in daily life. good luck
2007-02-02 17:28:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is not a disadvantage in my case!
I have been married to an abusive and unfaithful man for 3 years, but my Christian community keeps pressuring me to stay, to seek counseling, to wait and figure out our problems. Counseling isn't helping this pathetic excuse for a man! He has attending vigorous stress and anger management courses lasting months, we have been in marriage counseling for 2 years, going to church together, praying together for 2 years! I am tired of waiting! The timeline has expired! My patience has gone out the window! I need to be free of this suffocating marriage!
It is not hindrance! It is freedom! A person can take only so much abuse before they crack and are done with trying!
I view divorce as a blessing to those in my hopeless situation of an impossible marriage.
2007-02-03 01:30:35 · answer #2 · answered by stephanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorse is a disadvantage because it can lead you down the wrong road. The common thought is if you bail out and run once, what is to say you wont keep on?
Divorse is living a deception. Does anyone really think about the vows they are saying? Or is it a joke?
The affects on kids can and usually are a disaster. Divorse causes family problems because the majority of the time the two parents feed b.s. to the kids and then the kids are in the middle and end up having to decide who to believe which causes a lot of un needed stress.
2007-02-03 01:14:32 · answer #3 · answered by Jon G 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Even though it is no longer a social taboo in America (compared to other cultures), divorce puts enormous stress on a person's life and worse when children are involved. It is like a bad story with no clear ending. A divorcee stands a much larger chance of repeat and 3peat. Then your kids follow your footstep.
And the marriage counselors make you say bad things about your parents and your childhood, which doesn't make you feel any better but more guilty for dragging others into a mess.
2007-02-03 01:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok, having had 3 of them.... ppl see divorce as a personal failure of the person who had the divorce. Thats why. A hindrance? Many ppl. like Christians, see it as breaking God's command to be married. And to stay that way. I was in an abusive marriage, and my church told me to leave once I divorced my hubby and had him put in jail. This turned me off to religion and church.
2007-02-03 01:11:38 · answer #5 · answered by Dragonflygirl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is not a great disadvantage if it was from a bad spouse/marriage...
Most potential mates will understand this...
Kids from a previous marriage are a much greater problem.
2007-02-03 01:54:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋