At some point in life it is about quantity otherwise people woudln't use lame excuses to break up like:
1. "I need to find myself"
2. "I'm not ready for a commitment"
3. "I'm not ready to settle down"
4. "I need some space"
5. "I need some time to sort things out"
You get the idea, the list goes on and on.
What do all these equal: I feel the need to screw more people. So don't give me that line about its not about quantity. People like this emphasize quality becuause they have already had thier quantity.
2007-02-02 17:04:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are flaws in your logic.
When you are young and inexperienced but hormone driven, quantity is the answer. After a while (hormone in check), you work on projecting a more mature image, one who appreciates the "fine things in life".
2007-02-02 17:12:22 · answer #1 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you assume any of these things are about sex? I agree that are all cop out excuses for ending or holding out on a relationship but disagree that they may have anything to do with sex, let alone with quality vs. quantity.
I'm afraid you speak in double talk there, pal.
If you do actually want to address that issue, I still hold that quality is the most desirable. And you never specified whether you were speaking as to the amount of sex or the number of partners. I have found that more sex with the same partner usually works out best but only if that partner is very into me and we are committed to one another. In the case where I am not after a commitment (and at the moment I am not) then more than one partner may be an option if there happens to be more than one person that I am interested in and have a healthy friendship with. Safety is, of course, always the top priority and respect and care a necessity. And it must be done openly and honestly as well and then only if one is single and free.
It doesn't take many people or multiple orgasms or daily sex to keep me satisfied. It does take a partner who shows care and concern for my well being, knowledge of what makes me tick, an adventurous spirit, and a willingness to give and receive.
2007-02-02 17:36:31 · answer #2 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These two need not be separate. Quantity often goes hand in hand with quality - i.e., if you "do it" enough, you're bound to run into people who are great lovers. Also, "quality" means different things to different people. I think, if you get down to it, "quality" is nothing other than "compatibility". The "excuses" you have listed simply mean that one doesn't feel they're compatible with the person they are with; it might have nothing to do with the desire for more partners.
2007-02-02 17:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you answered your own question--if the QUALITY was great noone would move on--people have sex with diff people to get what they want out of sex but if they had a partner whom is equally sexual why move on?? everyone man or woman has fantasies about someone elser besides there partner but if are fulfilled with one partner why screw that up.
2007-02-02 17:13:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ill take the points.lol
2007-02-02 17:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋