I have been seeing my girl close to 4 years...but the initial chemistry (we used to make out like rabbits) has gone...leaving good ol' love, bonding and friendship. We see each other every day fr abt 6 hrs in the evening. I don't feel like 'doing' it anymore, though she does. Its making me wander and look for sex elsewhere for no fault of hers. Help!!
2007-02-02 16:50:01 · 15 answers · asked by sumit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is absolutely normal to notice the lust getting fadded. That does not mean one should look for sex elsewhere. Sex in no doubt more important than anything in the relationship but long term relationship is one that everybody should aspire for and work for it.
2007-02-03 05:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by Marks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's important for the two people to be "on the same page" in the issue of sex. What that "page" is, doesn't really matter - what matters is how compatible their views are. My husband and I bypassed the "lust" stage entirely, and skipped straight to the "bonding and friendship" part - this is just how our relationship has worked out; so far, it continues to work out, and we are both happy with it.
2007-02-02 16:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should be a commitment in any relationship between a man and woman. Hence, the insistence on sex after marriage, in the Eastern societies. If after marriage, if sex satiates, they try to devise different methods to make the boredom wane. Besides, in family life, there are other commitments and challenges that you jointly face, which helps in cementing the relations and creating a bond.
2007-02-02 17:34:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I desire i ought to respond to this in a great way, yet no, i ought to no longer. I recommend if it were a topic that a psychological or actual problem change into combating her from having a sexual courting, then we may do what lets jointly to fix it. yet when it is only a topic the position she merely would not sense like having sex, i do not understand that i ought to cope with that. And it can make alot of my self nicely worth bypass down the drain because you ought to me to sense wanted and tasty to my better 1/2. That being suggested, i ought to do all that i ought to, perchance even remedy (?) to objective to fix the challenge in the previous giving up, rather in a lengthy time period courting. I do dislike sport taking section in, yet it truly is an idea. carry out on her. nevertheless make your self desireable, flirty, inspite of receives her going devoid of truly sound asleep consisting of her. And do exactly not sleep consisting of her, perchance if she has to paintings flat out to come back to you, the exhilaration of the chase may restart her fires somewhat. that is with assistance from no means a assure, yet somewhat idea. good success and XOXOXO!
2016-11-02 04:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best part of a relationship is when you get beyond the lust and become comfortible. Just follow what is good for you.
2007-02-02 17:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by JHAMAINE E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never loved your girl, did you? You just used her for your lust. Better get out of her life and don't ever get close to any other girl untill you feel you are man enough to love her...
2007-02-03 04:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
are you have any medical reason for this?if not are you still in love?it does change its been 16 years and if it can still happen 1-2 a week its good by me.
2007-02-02 16:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lust fades for most people, but hopefully in it's place you have something that means so much more.
2007-02-02 16:56:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't see her as a Sex Object, see her as your LOVE. The girl you love isn't just meant to have sex with. Bring life to you love life.
2007-02-04 21:22:09 · answer #9 · answered by betterplacein 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happens to everyone. Sometimes talking about it works wonders. She may feel the same way.
2007-02-02 16:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋