Is it common amongst this age group to have this urge??? Is it physiological or psychological??
2007-02-02 16:31:13 · 54 answers · asked by Shamji R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its is all too common for your age group. Did you forget your marriage vows? You will lose more than you will gain from this type of behavior.
2007-02-07 08:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The inclination to cheat is both physiological and psychological. That may be one of the reasons that so many people (not just men!) do it. The important thing to remember is the consequences, not the reasons behind the urge. I think it is important to remember not only your own urges, but also your own conscience...are you the type of man who can keep a secret like this or would you feel the need to be honest with your wife afterward? How would she respond, and do you want to deal with that? Would she find out anyway? Maybe you should consider that perhaps your wife has the same primal urge.
2007-02-10 11:08:37 · answer #2 · answered by Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No SR. Do you think that wanting to have an affair is going to really fix the dead end of your marriage? WRONG!
Why don't you instead try to put time and honest effort in revive what make you fall in love with your partner when you first started. Brake the routine my friend. Courtship your lady all over again. Bring the spark back into your life. It is possible. Your marriage deserve the chance. Don't quit, be a winner.
2007-02-10 09:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by Iris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
,Every one, age or sex, has that urge--is it really worth it?? You need to think about what you would gain from having an affair to what you could lose. It really doesn't matter if it is physiological or psychological because you are making a choice. Talk to your wife and tell her why you have these feelings--whether she isn't giving you enough sex, enough variety or you may need a diff woman just be honest.
2007-02-02 16:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mid-Life crisis -----I'm sorry what you're suggesting is WRONG. Before you even think about doing this you'll have to ask yourself----Will it be worth it when you destroy your marriage, your childrens lives, your home, security, comforts of home etc. If you can ask yourself, "I want when I want when I want it" generally you'll end up basking in trouble.
Why don't you turn your attentions to your wife and plan an affair with her. Make reservations at a nice motel or hotel.....Tell your wife you're taking her to dinner and after dinner don't go home. Surprize her with the drive to the motel. Fall in love with your wife all over again. Focus you attentions and energies in nuturing what you already have!
2007-02-07 23:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is common for some but not for all, I think at different time in our lives we need ego boosts due to lack of the thrill from our spouses, like when the relationship was new. Instead of an affair with someone different try having one with your wife. From time to time go rent a hotel room and send her a flower with the invitation to meet you on the card, or take her away for a romantic weekend.
2007-02-02 16:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by Just Me 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It is common to have these feelings at any age. But what is not common is for someone to ACT UPON THEM. Feel how you want, the act is the SIN!!!! Only.... those feelings need to go away over time so evaluate your married and see what can be done for you to bring the focus back onto your wife.
2007-02-10 08:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by Mo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the point of all the drama. Buy your wife a wig and new dress. Go to a hotel and have her meet you there. Be a little creative within your marriage. Is cheat ting really worth all the drama and hurt you are going to cause because you go home and have the same dish every night.
2007-02-09 07:27:59 · answer #8 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people claim to have suffered from middle-aged wander lust, but there is no excuse for cheating. Look at your wife. Do you love her? Can you imagine how crushed she would feel if you betrayed her trust and faith in you? Are you willing to give that up for an affair? How would it make you feel if she was hurting so deeply that you destroyed all the beauty you saw in her? Is is really worth it?
2007-02-02 17:46:56 · answer #9 · answered by LMnandez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ask yourself why? If you are ready for divorce court then I say get the divorce then have as many affairs as you want. If your wife has been faithful to you then why put her through all the pain when she finds out and most of the time they do. Women have a sixth sense about these things.
2007-02-09 18:03:04 · answer #10 · answered by Jodi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course all the questions you've asked are the answers which makes it all too common and therein lies the problem. And how would you feel if you found your wife was doin the same???? This unfortunately is not a male or female situation too often now days it is both!
2007-02-02 16:48:51 · answer #11 · answered by Sureshot 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋