He said some major lies at first we met and I want him to come clean take the resposibility for his lies and he wants to move forward but won't come clean... He has stop it now but haven't came clean about previous lies...Help any idea what I got to do?
2007-02-02 16:31:10 · 6 answers · asked by Holy 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I hate to say this, but once a liar, always a liar. Sounds like this guy is taking advantage of someone very sweet and nieve. I say kick him to the curb and find someone that will put you on a pedalstal and keep you there. Honesty no matter what is always, always the best policy. I have lived a long time and have learned some major life lessons the hard way. I hope you learn to have much happiness in your life, as you do deserve it.
2007-02-02 16:40:20 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy Roo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, some people look at lying as not very serious and do not realize that lying is a big problem that can snowball into some serious outcomes. Someone like him causes you to not TRUST..or BELIEVE anything said.....why should you if he isn't trustworthy?
Life is hard enough without someone who is part of your life messing with your brain that way....it just adds so much stress that you don't need.
From the times you mentioned "come clean" in your question I think that means you want him to put his cards on the table and not hold back.
I don't think you can forget his lies. Can you?
If the answer is NO..then you might have some serious thinking to do whether to keep up this relationship or to go out with others who you can trust. It's all up to you.....you know something if a person has a habit of lying they tend to tell more lies to cover up the first and second one.....it's not a way I'd want to live...with someone who operates that way.
Best of luck in your decision with your friend,
Mama Jazzy Geri
2007-02-03 00:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Jazzy Geri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy has a problem. Unfortunately, there may be nothing that you can do. Try to communicate how his behavior is negatively affecting you and express what your concerns are. Unfortunately, this guy has gotten positive reinforcement at some point in his life as a result of his lies. Habitual lying is a symptom of insecurity and possible mental illness. A better concern might be what keeps you invested in making him tell the truth which he obviously does not want to do and has no intention of doing. RED FLAG = danger for you.
2007-02-03 02:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only think he has stopped the lies. It is more likely that now that you have feelings for him, you just don't see his lies. This is proven by the fact that he won't come clean. If he won't come clean, he doesn't feel he did anything wrong, and is actually still lying.
Cut your loses, get out now.
2007-02-03 00:43:04 · answer #4 · answered by webb1socoolguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to learn the Bible and have a realationship with Jesus Christ. Anything else will fall short. True love rejoices in the Truth.
Jesus is the Truth.
2007-02-03 00:46:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lying isn't a habit that dies over night, chances are he will continue to lie and will never come clean, don't waste your energy, either accept that he's a liar and keep it to yourself, or dump him.
2007-02-03 00:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋