No family or friends to talk with, no access to any organizations or any of that. Making friends is a pointless and stupid consideration because you know you can't trust them and wouldn't like them anyway, even if they did understand the issue at hand. What do you do? You basically are with yourself and only yourself 24/7 all year long.
2007-02-02 16:25:39 · 12 answers · asked by fslcaptain737 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
First, I'd say... you need to realize you aren't the only one with this problem.... many people are loners and do not trust or make friends easy because they prefer their solitude.
Next I'd say -- when you need to vent that out do it in whatever form that makes you feel passionate in an art form. That could be anything from an art form of painting to writing to practicing martial arts.. to whatever... (just go with me here)
Third, you're really underestimating a friends service as 'friend' and not all of them are stupid or untrustworthy... and some may even teach you a better way to view the world, or at least distract you from your own life for a while.
2007-02-02 16:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by Craptacular Wonderment 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, it's probably a problem of location more than anything else. I live in a real redneck town where being gay is looked down upon, but just an hour drive makes it to a large gay community -so large in fact that the mayor started preforming same sex marriages without licenses and it made a big splash in the media. You need to find people who think similarly to you -you're really young so its no surprise that it hasn't happened yet. Join gay meetup groups or find out if your college has a group like others here have suggested. I'm a little older than you and I've had a chance to travel the US, so I KNOW that there are many many areas in the states where you would meet people who have views similar to yours. Provincetown Mass, New Orleans LA, Key West Fl and so many other places have huge gay communities where people are openly demonstrative of their feelings towards members of the same sex and seeing two men holding hands is very commonplace. Some day you will meet non-judgemental, like-minded people. Do not despair!
2016-03-29 02:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound stupid, but if you have no outlet for your emotion you need to create one that is reasonable.
Think of what emotions you have, whether some are the result of problems in your life, and make some lists about things you could do to make things better. Keep a journal if that helps. Even if you only make lists about tasks you have to do or what bills to pay it will help diffuse some of the emotion.
Even if you don't want to make friends you really ought to find ways to be out and talking to some people (not about your personal business - just light stuff) more as well. It helps people feel less like they're all in a coccoon with their problems and feel like life isn't always "heavy".
2007-02-02 16:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your heart, you know this is not normal or rational thinking. There are organizations in every town/cityto become a part of. Churches have youth organizations. You can lace up the jogging shoes and just take off. No telling who you might meet along the way. Can't trust ?? Just look at this message board... there are people everywhere here from all corners of the globe wanting to offer good, considerate advice to perfect strangers. Most people are consumed with goodness... but don't blame them if you are not willing to give them a chance to prove it. Please take the time to take a long, hard look at your own self. What are you doing to help yourself ????
2007-02-02 16:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to make friends because you can't trust them, you can buy trust by seeing a therapist, but it's expensive. If you include therapy within no family-friends-organizations, then you could get your emotions out by keeping a private journal or blog. Even if no one reads it, it can help a lot. Also, find a hobby, do something you enjoy. Exercise is especially good. If you can combine something you enjoy with exercise you will be a very happy person. Good luck.
2007-02-02 16:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by Idaho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An angry question on the internet. Are you so sure you don't have an outlet? You dont' have to be by yourself. Find someone to talk too. You almost sound like you could be depressed, which can sometimes come across as feeling helpless. Find someone to talk too.
2007-02-02 17:14:48 · answer #6 · answered by sapientia2010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point when the world seems unsupportive you are your best support.
Turn inwards, introspect, work out, watch movies, listen to music, cook go sightseeing, read something for a career move.
Use the spare time to meditate and practise yoga. Once you have found yourself you will be at peace with yourself and soon others will also be willing and ready to accept you
2007-02-02 16:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by sandeepmishraumcp 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
write your feelings in a journal, it sounds corny, but most of the time we just need to say things and get them out of our system and if you can't talk to anyone, write it, or see a therapist. take up hobbies and improve your skills in areas of interest, if you don't connect well with other people, maybe you'd find more satisfaction in other places. even if you don't trust people, it doesn't hurt to be friendly, a laugh from a stranger once a day can be just enough socialization to keep you in touch with the world.
2007-02-02 16:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you kill yourself, since you have already decided it's hopeless. But a tire and baseball bat may help.
2007-02-02 16:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a person who has no outlet for emotion will become crazy, find one
2007-02-02 16:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by unravel43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋