The lady concerned is quite cautious and shy and she is also still recovering from a long-term relationship break-up eight months ago. There have also been stressful and emotionally distressing run-ins with her ex in recent weeks and months
2007-02-02 16:16:22 · 14 answers · asked by Ady 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
I dont think that she is ready for a relationship, you would become her shoulder to cry on.
However, if you do really like or (love) her, then you need to offer support first, ask her out for Valentines Day, say to her that you want to spoil her, without any pressure. Dont chat about her stressful situation, focus on what she likes to to do and what she finds interesting, what makes her feel happy, because she is probably caught up in that emotional whirlwind, she has forgotten what does make her happy. You need to get her to think in a positive way about her future and to stop feeding off her past hurt. Good luck!
2007-02-02 16:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by ambertottie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To sum up the wisdom offered before and give an observation of my own:
First, it can take a long time to get past a bad breakup, especially when an ex comes in to haunt.
Secondly, you can say you would like to be with her on valentine's day, but it can not be romantic. If you try romantic cr@p she may react with extreme negativity.
Thirdly, present the idea of "spending time together on Valentine's" as a friendly, social thing. You might say "would like to do something casual if you are up to it..."
Fourthly, do keep things low key. An example: You might buy her sweets, but DO NOT have them in a heart shaped box. To her that might signal something bad.
Fifth: Your friendship is what she may need now and that supportive friendship may grow into a romance. The caution is she can not be pushed. That will easily send her running.
And finally, in the process of friendship and support, do not become Agnony Auntie. Neither of you need that burden. Simply attempt to be the one she turns to when times are bad.
Beyond that, what will happen will happen, "You can't hurry love, you just have to wait" (From an old rock song)
--That Cheeky Lad
2007-02-02 17:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Valentines would be a good time to do it, but since she is still recovering from a long term relationship I would wait for awhile before you ask her out. Valentines day is coming very soon so don't do it then.
2007-02-02 16:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Before..
2007-02-02 16:27:19 · answer #4 · answered by Chrys 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not in love with you, but Im sure you are very fond of her (there is a big difference). My suggestion is to not ask her out specifically, but let her know that you would like to be her friend and if she would like some company at some time that you would be honored. You dont want a rebound relationship, but Im sure she could use a loyal friend right now.
2007-02-02 16:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by Freak Boy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What are the vibes? are u tuned in ?
I'd go for valentines day nothing over the top something fun and creative
2007-02-02 16:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it NOW
Then Valentines Day would be something to celebrate
Good luck
2007-02-02 16:28:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tricky one....i would show some soft friendship now!!! as in offer her support but not to much as then you become agony aunt and that will go no where...the only way to get women like that as i used to be is show them that the guy they were with before is a loser....show her all the good things she is not seeing now and you will win her....DONT BECOME AN AGONY AUNT THOUGH.....
i would move in now and then do something romantice valentine day
2007-02-02 16:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by MissTee 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
OKAY THIS IS WHAT U DO OKAY ... LOOK JUST GIVE HER HINTS THAT U LIKE HER OR UR IN LOVE WITH HER AND THEN ON VALENTINES DAY MAKE UR BIG MOVE WITH SOME ROSES AND CHOCOLATES AND A NICE DINNER OR A MOVIE??? HOW THAT??? GOOD LUCK...
2007-02-02 16:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by venecia a 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
before,make your move now,on valentine it will be easier for you to respon based on her reaction,
2007-02-02 16:58:41 · answer #10 · answered by mallesh_bc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋