If your man had a friend who was cheating on his wife would you be okay with them being friends or would it bother you?
2007-02-02 16:15:11 · 36 answers · asked by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yo'mama-
He has been with me for 4 years and we have known each other for 9 years and he has just begun a friendship with this guy last year. So, no he hasn't known him longer.
2007-02-02 16:24:53 · update #1
it would bother me cos they give each other ideas hmmmmm
2007-02-02 16:16:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good relationship with your husband and you don't have a reason not to trust him then why worry about it. Your husband may be a good influence on this guy not to cheat or it may make him curious to why you two have such a good relationship. But if you feel that this guy could cause your husband to be curious about cheating then you should talk to him and find out everything you can about the guy. I'd let him know that I felt uncomfortable about the new friend and why. Then you both can make the decision on weather he needs to stay friends with the guy or not.
2007-02-02 16:59:45 · answer #2 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really its all on how that person feels. My opinion is that, that is their issue and i would rather stay out of the problem. But as far as someone cheating my hubby cheated on me and it hurt really bad. We had a friend who claimed that they (friend and my hubby) had messed around while we were seperated and we both agreed it was best to stop hanging with that person. It can either make or break a relationship and we would rather not be involved with that. So good luck with your problem. And if it does bother her then listen to why and make a list of pros and cons and do what the two of you feels best.
2007-02-02 16:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by princessfairee2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would bother me. Talk to him about it. My boyfriend and I was friend with a man the same way, we no longer have anything to do with because my boyfriend didnt trust him. So talk it over but it is not your buisness to tell his wife just leave hints dont tell her right out because it would maybe cause a break in ya'lls friendship.
2007-02-03 06:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jessi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husbands manager at his last job was a good friend and was also cheating on his wife with the secretary. My husband would even go and rent them rooms under his name on his lunch break to hide it. I was fine with them being friends cause my hubby had to learn for himself that if a man will cheat on his wife, he cannot be a good friend. Case in point-my husband ended up getting fired while on medical leave from that job, and his "buddy" didnt even try to stick up for him, even after he helped keep their little secret. So then my hubby mailed all the hotel bills and pics to the wife.
I just sat back and laughed when his friend called and wanted to stay with us since he was kicked out and hubby said no.
2007-02-02 16:41:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it would bother me slightly, but the people he hangs out with arent him. you said that you and him had been together for 4 years now, and have been friends for 9, so you pretty much know the person he is right, and relationships are built on trust, trust him and if youre unsure of the guy hes hanging out with its normal. As for the friend himself, retaining the knowledge that his wife is being cheated on can cause problems down the road. and I do strongly advise that his wife know. That is another question in itself though. As for your relationship with your man, ride it out darlin'.
2007-02-02 16:49:52 · answer #6 · answered by Em 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have a problem with this unless it seems the friend is trying to pull your man his way. Also, what does your man think of it? Is he questioning the friendship? Only if you think your man will crack under peer pressure do you need to worry I think. That isn't to say you can't make your feelings about it known to your man or his friend.
2007-02-02 16:22:27 · answer #7 · answered by gagesmom@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It wouldn't bother me... I would have to be OK with their friendship. Your man can not control what his friends do neither can you. Think about it, if one of your best female friends cheated on her hubby or bf and told you, would you dump her as a friend? I bet you would not. I also bet that you would be pissed if your bf asked you to stop hanging out with her...As long as your man is acting right, don't worry about it.
2007-02-02 16:24:58 · answer #8 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me personally, I am in this situation. My fiancee has a lot of friends who cheat on their wives. I'm secure enough in my relationship to know that my man loves me and is strong minded enough not to let what they do influance him into doing anything like that. I trust my man. I know they say "Birds of a feather flock together" and it may worry some people because they may think that their man might do it too because he sees his friends do it or they may think that their man's friends may influance him to do it. You just have to trust your man. I know all of my man's friends and they respect me enough not to try and get my man to do it. I am a very good woman and know that my man wouldn't cheat so it doesn't bother me.
2007-02-02 16:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn’t worry about that.
It’s clear that you already established a great relationship with your man.
So, just keep it the way it is. And feel secure about your love.
Remember, an important part of any healthy relationship is trust.
And you should trust his judgment.
Good luck
2007-02-02 16:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the friend I guess... One doesn't have to be a cheater to be an "undesireable" friend. I don't think I would be too concerned with cheating in itself - what people do in their personal lives is their business.
2007-02-02 16:19:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋