5 yr relationship.... broken up 6 months ago but finding difficult to move on! help :S
2007-02-02 15:50:02 · 11 answers · asked by lianney20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have just come out of a five yr relationship also, and have had every person i know trying to give me advice on it. I ended up so confused as i had all these people who mean well but were filling my head with how they think i should act and what i should do.
It didn't help at all. What did help me was having a night by myself when i did just sob my heart out, cried so much that i didn't think that anything could be any worse. And that was me at my limit. I didn't get over it straight away, but it did bring into perspective how i was wasting my time thinking about him so much.
I do not have any regrets as i did have some very good times with him, but relationshps can't always work out. I stll love him, am now just accepting those feelings instead of trying to fall out of love with him.
Maybe i need to ask the next question of how to get out of rebound mode, as i am now going out enjoying myself but not letting myself get attached to anyone.
It will take time, but just listen to yourslf more, you have it inside you to get over this, you maybe just don't realise how strong you really are.
Good luck with everything x
2007-02-02 22:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by caz_rabbit_85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of Course It's Always Difficult To Move On When You Were In A Long Relationship That Meant A Lot 2 U. I Think That 4 Now U Should Just Spend Some Time W/ Ur Friends & Try 2 Get Ur Mind Off Of Him. Everyone Goes Thru Those Awful Break-ups & They Suck But Unfortunately We Have To Go Thru Them. Do Things 2 Get Ur Mind Off Of It. Spend Time W/ Ur Friends & Family & Take "U" Time In Order 2 Recover. I Hope This Helped. God Bless.
2007-02-02 19:13:51 · answer #2 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry you'll survive it will just take awhile but have patience you will get over this. I have been in a couple of relationships where i didn't think that i would ever survive and that i would never move on but eventually i did and now i realise that those men were jerks and i'm glad that we did break up. Try not to think about it too much. Go out with your friends and keep yourself busy. And STAY SINGLE it's way better then being in any kind of relationship.
2007-02-02 17:01:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me, this is experience talking. You hold your head up and start believing in yourself!
For some common sense help and practical advice with humor, Buy this book. "IT'S CALLED A BREAK UP BECAUSE IT'S BROKEN"
It is the smart girls break up buddy and it will help you! It's helped my best friend and she was just dumped before Christmas but is doing well now. Hang in there sweetie!!
http://www.randomhouse.com/broadway/breakup/breakup_advice.htm
2007-02-02 16:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Granny♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, so sorry to hear that! It's gonna take time that's a long time to be with someone and a lot of feelings that have to be switched off! just bare with it, you wont feel like this forever. Maybe throw your self into a new hobby or a course, something that you wouldn't normally do and can spend alot of time concentrating on! After a break up i started tap dancing lessons - bit bizarre but it took my mine of things and gave me something to do on those lonely evenings!
2007-02-02 21:32:36 · answer #5 · answered by kim t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there. Don't focus so much on moving on as much as just moving. I just wanted to be over my ex and I forced it, thought about it all the time and every week I was like "I think I'm over him, I'm ready for ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP." Then I would realize I was BSing myself and feel really crappy. Think about everything you love about yourself as an individual, who you were before you met your ex and develop those facets of your personality. Reinvent yourself or revive your individuality. Make sure every day you are doing something you enjoy and something that expresses who you are.
2007-02-02 15:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is painful and there is nothing you can do about it,if i am hurt by something i cry a lot and after sometime the pain is gone eventhough you cant forget about it. dont worry one day the pain will be gone,try by all means to wipe it away from your heart eventhough is difficult,accept it as part and parcel of life,that is what we call life but after all we have to survive it.
2007-02-02 16:20:20 · answer #7 · answered by peedee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out with friends, get a new haircut, new style of make up, get out there girl and have fun, go and get someone else. friends are a big help though
2007-02-02 15:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's like a death, you have to grieve the relationship and then find a new love.
2007-02-02 15:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry 2 hear that but 2 get over it star dating people cuz i know wut his doing right now hes on a dat so u need 2 star dating people 2 get over him & mabe u`ll find some1 new 2
2007-02-02 16:16:24 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋