How to improve this situation???

Question

I need to stop feeling bad about a lost friendship with my neighbours. We see each other in the hallways and in the underground and we both don't talk. I say "hI" to their child and she smiles , but they don't talk to me. I apologized to them and they told me the would be taking out a lawsuit against me. I told them I would countersue. No lawsuit came. We just don't speak to each other. They claim I am wrong and that is it!!!
Ignoring them is hard for me. I park in the same area as they do and we see each other...2 times this week now. I am sorry it has to be like this and want to make it better , but how???? They want money from me and I will not pay them...that is extortion. They came it is not.
Strange way of doing business. Most people forgive and forget. What now?????

Answer 1

Dont feel bad, just smile and get on with life.
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Answer 2

It sounds like you have forgave, or appologized and forgot, now it is there turn. When a person feels like someone else has done them wrong it usually takes them a little longer to forgive and forget. After a while they may forget why they are even mad anymore, or find that it is just too much work to stay made. You just need to give it some time to put some distance between you and the incident that occured. The bad feelings will also go away in time.

Answer 3

When people feel wronged and entitled to some form of "justice" (in this case the money) they are not likely to forgive until they get their justice. Since these people are not going to get the "justice" they think they should they aren't likely to forgive - mostly because they probablyh can't. The need to see justice after being (what one perceives as) "wronged" is too strong.

I'm not saying the reallity is that you wronged them. I'm saying it sounds like this is how they perceive what happened.

Most of the time, the people more likely to want to "forgive and forget" are, though, the people who have done something to someone else (even if they didn't mean it).

As with any relationship, it takes both sides to want to get past difficulties before the people involved can start to mend fences. I think you should just relax about the fact that you are not friends, continue to say "hi" to their child, and keep in mind that they are the ones who have chosen not to attempt to make any amends between you.

Answer 4

You haven't explained what happened that is at the heart of the problem so there is no way to know if their anger at you is justified or not. If neither side is willing to find a compromise, there probably isn't anything you can do to "fix" this. They are angry--justified or not--and it takes both sides to find common ground and communication. All you can do is to say hello when you see them and try to act as though you think they are nice people and hope they finally give up their grudge against you. Other than that, there isn't much you can do until they're willing to talk to you and find an amicable solution.

Answer 5

Depends what you have done, but if it was a small mistake...talk to them and let them know how much the lost friendship has effected you. If its a friendship worth saving thats all it will take.

If you've done something really bad, then its lost, and if they dont want to resolve the frienship despite how you have treid then cut your losses and move on.
Thats it, friends come and go, its a funny old business but there doen't seem to be rules, you have to go with the strongest flow, and her flow is saying leave me alone. So do.
Make new friends and ignore the silly old cow...not worth your stress or worries.