My friends 15 yr old daughter wants a tattoo. His ex told her yes just to make him look like the bad guy?

Question

His daughter now wants one so bad, and my friend needs help in how to discourage her decision in wanting one, in a rational and mature way,(isn't there an age law or something?)yet not pleasing the wicked ex witch who is hoping for him to choke. She does this to him all the time and needs to get a taste of her own medicine, but in a mature way that will please his daughter and tactfully and brilliantly just blow the wicked ex's head off!!! There has to be someone who has some backstabbing schemes that are self pleasing and ex wife deceiving!! Do TELL please!

Answer 1

WTF
how about "NO"
part of the problem is that too many parents are trying to be FRIENDS with kids.
"NO, because I said so!" Who gives a rats azz if the daughter is pleased or not! Daughter probably doesnt care that strongly one way or another but loves the attention that she is getting from this conflict!
He should tell the ex wife that he does not agree to his daughter getting a tattoo at this age. He should make fun of her for not being able to be a parent and say no....(maybe this will make her think). If I were him, I would threaten to take her to court if she allows this. I wouldnt waste the money to actually DO it because she will probably be 19 before the case actaully goes in front of the judge.. but hell, she wont know if he is serious or not.
He shoud tell her that that when she turns 18, she will be free to do what in the hell she wants to do and he would respect and appreciate it if she would parent accordingly.

I would tell the daughter that she is putting her mother in a horrible position and that YOU (he) WILL fight her on this...ask her if that tattoo is worth what her mother will suffer in time, money etc. Ask the daughter if she loves her mother. If she says yes, then ask her why in the hell her tattoo means more than the headache she is going to cause her.
Agree to a temporary HENNA tattoo as a compromise (these last a few days to a few weeks)

Tell the ex that if she wants to go against his wishes that HE will consider that a decleration of WAR. As far as phucking over the ex wife, TELL THE her that If 16 year old shows up with the tattoo after these objections that you are going to let her do whatever she wants whenever she wants, THEN DO IT! Tell the 16 year old that if mommy says NO to anything just come over here and he will make it right! Of course your house will be where she always wants to be.
Let her boyfriend spend the night, (in seperate rooms of course) or whatever else might tickle her fancy.
Have him tell her that he is going to introduce her to beer and cigarettes, before the daughter comes over ask the ex if she knows what kind of douche to buy as you are thinking about allowing her to have her first sexual encounter at your (his) house this weekend and you were calling to see what a slut like her (the ex) uses to keep her nasty hole clean.
WHatever will piss her off, do that. Ex will go bonkers b/c daughter will want to be at your house every weekend. ex wont sleep a wink while she is there.
When daughter gets TOO wild, send her back home!
To bad the daughter will be the one suffering in My scenario, but dont let that stop the plan. She is already suffering because the best interest of her are NOT first.
Are you sure you want to date this man?

Answer 2

There is a law, but it just requires a parent to give consent. Also, many respectable shops will not tattoo someone that young, though the law says they can with parental consent.

Actually, if the daughter really wants it, and the ex has said she was ok with it, then tell the daughter to have mom take her to get it. She will have to give the consent. You will either be calling the ex's bluff, or she will follow through with it. If the ex is really doing it to make the dad look bad, she will likely not follow through and allow it. If she doesn't mind her daughter getting a tat, then there isn't much the father can do to stop it.

I have 7 tattoos, soon to be more. My little girls want one. I have told them when they are old enough to do it on their own and pay for it, more power to them. I will even go with them to ensure they are somewhere clean and reputable. I can't stop them when they are of age, but I can make sure what they are doing is safe.

I say call the woman's bluff on this one though. Tell the 15 year old that Mom said it was ok, so let her take you to get it.

Answer 3

Depending on where she gets the tattoo in a few years when she does stop growing, the tattoo will be somewhat stretched a little.

Plus she might not like what she gets when she is 30 and a mom.

I don't think that he should retailate against his ex. Its not fair to the child that is involved. I would suggest maybe taking this matter to their custody judge or lawyer. Since tattoes are against the law unless you are 18 and older or you have the parents permission . And because they are divorced, it's not fair for just one parent to decide about a permanent decision on the body of their child.

Answer 4

WoaH!

Put on the brakes, this is about a girl who wants a tattoo.
If it were my daughter...and I have one...I would say if you still want a tattoo, you can wait another year for one, then I will say yes...as it is in fact her body...however the rationale is to guide the child in wise decisions. A tattoo is permanent, and can therefore wait a year before getting one.

The ex...her mother I assume? Should not be considered wicked. If the ex is her mom, the daughter sees herself as 50% part of her mom and 50% part of her dad. If one tells a child that one of their parents is wicked...or not necessarily tells her, but just act that way about her mom...then the child sees herself as 50% wicked.

Focus on what is best for the child. PERIOD!

Answer 5

I have got an idea. Tell him to call the mom and say that he gives and he's going to get her the tattoo. Get an artist to do a very large fake tattoo for her visit to her mom's. Don't tell the daughter that the phone call was made. When she shows up with a tattoo on an unhideable place like her neck and part of her face the mom might drop the whole tattoo idea.

Answer 6

He has to take the high road and not do a damn thing to discredit his Ex. Let her do that herself. If his daughter catches him stabbing her mother in the back she will be really hurt. Murphy's Law says that his ex may do a thousand horrible things to him and not get caught but if he tries to do one thing to get back at her he will get caught.
It may take years but his daughter will know he wasn't the bad guy.

Answer 7

i live in michigan and there is a law, she needs a parent consent, so if he takes her i think she can get it. personally i think she is way too young, i didn't get my first tatoo until i was 18

Answer 8

Ask around

Answer 9

Put your foot down and say when you're 18 you're more than welcome to get one, while you're under my roof and my rules, no tattoos, period. Tell them to f off.