ive had several people asking me if im Pregnant Again. i have a 13 year old and a 3 year old and am 43. yeah im fat... mostly in the stomach, but someone asks me that, i want to smack them in the head. lady... the nosey ugly troll of the day with the are you question,who i THOUGHT was my coffee friend on break said she was sorry... it must be the shirt you have on. my ????????? im 43c bra, and large waist. no booty. is there a way to dress?? i wear large shirts to cover my GUT (or BABY as some peope think)
i was very slim when i met my husband. my weight is all stomach. can someone out there please help??? im so tired of crying at work because of some christian hipocrate
2007-02-02 15:12:38 · 6 answers · asked by kim t 4 in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
I can empathize. This has happened to me several times. I distinctly remember once being asked this by a guy I had a crush on, and I just drove home crying and screaming in anger/disgust/depression after I left work. I don't think I'm fat, I'm 5'4" 135 lbs, which by most calculations is still considered a "healthy" weight. Unfortunately, I carry most of my extra fat around my waist. (I don't have much of a booty either.) I hate dresses because they only seem to accentuate the problem.
The most flattering styles I wear are long shirts that end just above my hips (I never tuck in shirts, it makes my waist look bigger), and shirts with "ruching" (cloth is "bunched" or pleated) around the waistline.
Example of a shirt with ruching at waistline:
http://www.spiegel.com/shop/product_single.aspx?tool=t1&f=b&Ntt=ruching&N=0&Nty=1&D=ruching&style_id=29854025&No=17&Ntk=descSearch
Here's ruching on a swimsuit:
http://www.spiegel.com/shop/product_single.aspx?tool=t1&f=b&Ntt=ruching&N=0&Nty=1&D=ruching&style_id=11704017&No=12&Ntk=descSearch
Intuitively, it doesn't seem like gathering fabric at the waist would help, but this style gives the illusion of a waist when there is none.
Also, I would NEVER wear all one color. It make me look like a sausage. That tip only works for those lucky girls with more of an hourglass shape. I don't like my booty, but I have good legs. It is usually most flattering when I wear a darker top and lighter pants. It draws attention away from my thick torso.
I know this seems obvious, but wear clothes that fit. Close that are too loose make you look frumpy. Clothes should be fitted but not too tight that they accentuate bulges.
One last tip: try to stand and sit up straight at all times. I am a sloucher and it makes my tummy look worse.
And to all you ignorant people: NEVER ask a woman if she's pregnant. If she is, she'll most likely say something sometime to clue you in, so you don't NEED to ask. If she isn't and you ask, it ruins her day. We're already self-conscious as it is, we don't need you to point out our flaws.
Good luck to you and damn all those lucky women who carry all their extra weight in their hips and thighs. No one ever asks them if they're pregnant.
2007-02-02 15:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by q_midori 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can give the child any name you wish. But take into consideration that the child's name can not be changed unless you pay and petition in court to change the name. So decide now or soon what it will be on the birth certificate. Also, you can name whoever you want as the father, but you can only get child support from that guy if he signed the birth certificate or you take him to court to prove he is the father. Think good and hard about it all before you decide what name and who you are putting on the certificate. It can never be completely changed, just altered and it is a hassle.
2016-05-23 22:07:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry!!!
Try wearing all one colour and in clothes that are actually your size. It is supposed to make you look slimmer. Also, avoid large print and stripes.
If you want to do a print, make it a small print and if you must to stripes, make them vertical.
I do feel your pain...my two kids took a huge toll on my body.
At the very least, she did say sorry...that's more than a lot of people would do.
Good Luck to you!
2007-02-02 15:24:54 · answer #3 · answered by michellecdnd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell this tactless people (if you have the guts): "I'm no more pregnant than you are smart."
If you don't, then say, "Why do you ask?" with big old innocent eyes. More than likely they'll stutter something like, "Um, um, uh no reason." Then you can just laugh to yourself. Who knows, people asking that used to be dreadful question could become something you find amusing.
2007-02-02 15:25:10 · answer #4 · answered by fizzybubbles:-) 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just say, "Excuse me?" Then when they repeat the question, I would say, "Excuse me? I'm sure I'm not hearing you correctly. " Every time they ask the question, I would just repeat that phrase. Eventually they will hopefully realize how rude they are, and stop asking.
Either that, or say, "No. Are you?"
2007-02-03 02:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by Mama Pastafarian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry honey ppl r so stupid why do they say mean stuff.........
i hope the best 4 u
2007-02-03 05:59:51 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋