My daughter is 13, but she isn't intrested in boys, at home she just watches tv or plays video games but I think she spending too much time watching "Anime"the Japanese cartoons" and shehas a bunch of Manga books.. Once I heared her saying I rather date a cartoon charater then a guy, and I am surprize because her friends are boy crazy When I with them they say "Look hes hott isn't he" she just says "Nope" but she never shows any emotions like when someone makes her laugh (very rarely) She covers her mouth and turns away. but I don't worry about her getting pregnent because every time she sees someone young that is pregnent she tells me " That girl is stupid" and shakes her head, but one thing is that I never talked to her about sex or nothing about that. I s this normal but I still worry about her getting pregnant, is this normal for her? sorry if I mispelled anything
2007-02-02 14:58:00 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no She is not a lesbian
2007-02-02 15:02:19 · update #1
i wouldnt worry about her lack of interest with boys at thirteen, i think you should be grateful actually. let her enjoy her teenage years and as long as she is doing normal teenage stuff and not obsessing too much over one thing then she is doing ok.
as far as her falling pregnant, as mothers we all worry about this at some time. talk to her about how you feel and im sure she will open up to you. she seems quite normal to me.
make sure you keep the communication up with her and let her know your there whenever she needs you.
2007-02-02 15:03:25 · answer #1 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a 13 yr old boy, and he isn't interested in girls. It's all sports. I am thankful. I can't believe that some people think it's normal for a 13 yr old to date in the first place. Even if my son wanted to, I would tell him that he was too young right now, and we would talk about it. I do believe you have to be open with children, in order for them to be open with you. You should, or someone you trust should have the sex talk with her though. Even if she isn't interested she does need to know the information for in the future. I think her thinking is correct when she frowns upon young pregnant girls. This at least gives you the idea she knows that it isn't a good thing to do. Try and spend some time alone, and have little talks with each other, until she feels comfortable opening up, you will both benefit from building an open, trustworthy relationship.
2007-02-02 15:16:41 · answer #2 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may be interested in boys but too uncomfortable with expressing that to you, or to boys right now. She's at a very vulnerable age. She may not be ready to let on an interest in boys, other than friendship. Her inclination to read or watch tv rather than socialize indicates she may be shy or not quite know how to socialize with boys or even girls her own age. If she's not emotionally ready for a boyfriend, she's still vulnerable if she is learning about sex and relationships from what she sees on TV.
This is where the responsibility falls on you to talk to her about these things. She may not be comfortable chatting with you, so its your job to try to make this easier for her. Talk to her as a mom but also a friend. No accusatory tones or negativity. Just honest, straightforward talk, telling her that you want to be sure she has the knowledge to make good choices and to know she has your support and love whenever she is feeling insecure or uncertain. You sound like a good mom, because you are concerned about this and want to help her. More moms should be like you.
It may be easier to start out with telling her how it was for you when you were 13 and the kind of questions you had for your own mother, and ask her if she has the same questions. Just to open up a conversation about it.
2007-02-02 15:06:41 · answer #3 · answered by grrluknow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
About the boy thing: totally normal. She'll show interest when she's ready. Chances are, talking about it with her may make her feel pressured or insecure. And manga is a popular thing now, so don't worry. Just make sure she reads other books regularly to keep her mind healthy. Every parent worries about their child so it's normal to worry about her getting pregnant at a young age. But since she's not even into boys yet, I wouldn't worry about it. Once she does become interested, I would talk to her though just to be sure. And the little emotion thing is probably just a teen phase. If it lasts much longer though it could be depression. You may need to talk to her about THAT first.
2007-02-02 15:12:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you're daughter's self esteem is not intact .... or, as intact as some of her other peers. Could be that she doesn't feel like boys are that interested in her, so she not only shows no interest in them, but also puts them down. The no emotion, laughing and covering her mouth ... could be that she's scared to show any emotion because it makes her appear somewhat vulnerable or because it brings too much attention to her, or because she wants to keep this mean hard brick wall up against her and everybody else or because she doesn't think her smile is pretty. It all boils down to the fact that her self esteem has been attacked somewhere along the line. Help her feel positive about herself so that she can fully experience life and see positivity in others.
2007-02-02 15:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by jalucia2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is only 13 so I say don't worry about it prematurely. Some of us simply can't be bothered with boys at that age. Maybe the fact that her friends are boy crazy made her more turned off by boys. It is at this age, i believe, that one's character is starting to mould and I think maybe she is still trying to 'find' her self and identity. Maybe she is facing some troubling esteem issue, which most young teenagers face, as most of us get teased by our childish peers during schooltime anyways. Have a talk with her, let her know its ok not to worship boys and ya proud cos she seems liek a sensible gal. But let her know also she should be having good fun at her age and its ok to laugh and see the lighter side of life. I had my first bf at 18, out of choice. I dont believe in rships during my younger teenage years cos Ive seen my gfs having bfs and they just changed or having so much bgr problem that it turns me off. I started being a likeable person (i hope hehe) in my early 20s. I am a late bloomer when it comes to confidence and character but now I am a confident and driven young woman and your daughter will be one too! :) Best of luck!
2007-02-02 15:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by Wish 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just described my daughter & she's now 14. Let her be a kid as long she wants to be one, because trust me you don't want her to grow up too fast!! She sounds super smart & you should be proud of her no matter what, & why are you worried about her getting pregnant @ 13. Maybe she's just shy but tell her that you are there if she needs to talk, but don't pressure her, she has enough of that elsewhere!!
2007-02-10 14:59:26 · answer #7 · answered by beenabytch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first poster. Maybe she is interested in girls, but doesn't realize it. Maybe she feels ashamed or embarrassed. They only way to know is to talk to her and see what's up. You have to be open and honest with her in order for her to return it. Be very open and don't criticize her for anything she may tell you. She's your daughter and of course you'll love her regardless. I'm sure you know all that. Another possibility is maybe she's developing slower than other kids. If she's not interested in boys yet, watches cartoons, and plays video games.. maybe she's just taking her time growing up.
Regardless, just ask her what's up and dig a little deeper.
2007-02-02 15:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds highly abnormal, although 13 is an age for discoveries. Things will probably change give a couple years, sounds like she dislikes all boys in general without ever getting to know who they are. This isn't realy health for a person's mind I don't think.
2007-02-02 15:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by Liam R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be happy and glad she is not "boy crazy". she has many years to go to become interested in boys and by that time she will be older and more mature.
anyway, she is only 13!! my niece wen she was 13 was just like your daughter. she would not even watch tv when people are kissing...... this girl is now taking her doctorate studies in England.
i think your daughter has her head straight because most girls her age today are wishy-washy and impulsive. also, i admire her when she says that someone who is pregnant is stupid because she is more mentally matured than these girls. do not worry about her love for cartoons....some people love cartoons even when they are grown up and have kids. she may also admire the characters of the cartoon characters as they are kind, thoughtful, honorable and are hereos to her.
you are a lucky mom and you did a good job in the way you brought up your daughter.
2007-02-02 15:12:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
She's only 13 for goodness sake. Let the girl be 13. Sounds like she has her head screwed on the right way to me. I'm sure by the time she is 16 things will change.
2007-02-02 15:22:03 · answer #11 · answered by jammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋