my name is Scott, I guess I am outing myself, not comfortable about this and do not know what to expect. PLEAS

Question

Is it as bad as it seems for a real person to tell the truth and just deal with what all of you have to say? I am who I am I am not able to be anything else.

I guess that there will be more negative responses than positive, but I will be secure in the fact that there are real people who understand out there.

Answer 1

Well Scott, though it may be scary, and uncomfortable, you'll be able to look back on the experience as the best thing that you ever did for yourself. You'll be able to sigh in relief....then get on with your life....or maybe better said....start your life.

What to expect.....from family, usually a bit of crying, but also relief as chances are that they already know. Afterward, hopefully, support. One step at a time though. Don't out yourself to everyone in your life in one day, ok.

Good luck. Feel free to email me if you want to talk more personally. Don't worry, I don't bite, and besides I live in Mexico. Rob

ps.dont listen to Aholes like *** killer. his hell has a special corner waiting for him.

Answer 2

Hi Scott,

You are correct, you are who you are. Believe in yourself. Know that you are wonderful just as you are. Make a few friends who will listen and who you trust and go foward.

It isn't bad at all, it is wonderful, even if it scares you for a while.

Welcome to a great big wonderful world. Write me if you need anything that I can offer to help.

*hug*

Kindest thoughts,

Reyn
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The Road Goes Ever on and on
Out from the door where it began
Now Far Ahead the road has gone
And I must follow if I can
Pursuing it with weary feet
Until it meets some larger way
Where many paths and errands meet
And whither then? I cannot say!

-- JRR Tolkien

Answer 3

it is an uncomfortable and uncertain time for everyone. the rules of being gay/gender-variant are not clearly defined like hetero-stuff and people whose lives it doesn't personally effect will know how to deal with it even less than you. you must be confident about it, you don't have to be outspoken but be 100% honest with everyone. be yourself at all times, as the chances are you are fooling nobody and only cheating yourself. if you feel uncomfotable with yourself how can anyone feel comfortable around you? if you are confident and secure in yourself people will respect that regardless of any differences. you do not have to out yourself to everyone unless you want to or want to be more visible to potential partners or something...you will find that a good amount of people truly don't care much about your sexual preferences, no matter how obvious or discrete they may be. you will get negative responses, the best approach is to just realize that many people are ignorant, everybody has faults and you should forgive the people who harass or exclude you (they do it out of ignorance which is beyond their control or personal frustrations in their own lives). for many individuals close friends and family have already known or suspected this for some time. all in all you can probably expect fewer bad reactions than you might think (homosexuality is really not uncommon), a fair amount of support and even encouragement from people you may not have expected it from, and a that the world overall will care much less than you worried it would.

Answer 4

Hi Scott. What you really need now is other gay friends who understand what you are going through. Some of us here are out, some of us are not. The good news is that there are decent people here that can help you get through this so you feel more comfortable about yourself.

Answer 5

You are right Scott you are not able to be anything else just as str8 people are not able to be anything else. You were born gay and so was I and so was every other gay person and that is the way we will stay. All of our str8 friends were born str8 and that is the way they will stay.
So you might as well come to terms with your true sexual orientation now and get it over and done with.
When I told my family that I was gay a lot of them responded by saying that they knew already! hehe I didn't know I was that obvious! But for me coming 'out' was not as bad as I always thought it would be. So I say go for it Scotty!
I will keep my fingers crossed for you Cutie!
Good luck!
*hugs*

JAC<
in Hamilton, Ontario, CANADA
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Answer 6

Actually, here's what no one ever tells you! ONCE you come out, YOU NEVER STOP COMING OUT!

What I mean is this . . . you tell your family (and/or friends) your gay. Now, you graduate school and go to get your first summer job before college. You are now, "Gay Scott." No matter where you go or where you are, you are "gay scott, or scott, the gay guy, or scott, you know, he's gay." And, if they don't know, THEN are you going to "out yourself" all over again? or wait for someone else to tell them? SO, YOU NEVER STOP COMING OUT! Lol, its not so bad though. After a few years, everyone in town knows and even starts trying to set you up!

Good luck!

Answer 7

okay Scott, I don't know what happened to the end of your question...but if you are outing yourself..then that's a good thing...it's a big step to take and you will eventually feel really good about it.

Answer 8

Hi Scott -- you forgot to ask a question.

Answer 9

you are who you are and no one should expect anything else.
i don't see the reasoning of having to anounce to the world, but that's me.
most people don't give a damn who you sleep with or who you love, and the ones that do hell with em. they didn't matter anyway!!!

Answer 10

No worries. Good evening, Scott, I hope you are well.