2 of my friends HATE each other...and im stuck in the middel. if i hangout with one the other gets mad. I've already told em i'm not choosen between either one of em...and IF they ever made me i would choose neither...but i always feel like im in the middle like im supose to choose or sumthing......i just dont know what to do.
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-02 14:09:41 · 10 answers · asked by Tiff 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Make them chose...tell them to grow up and they need to chose to be adult like when they are around each other IF they want to remain friends with you.
2007-02-09 20:26:06 · answer #1 · answered by sammy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the exact same situation but i'm not the friend in the middle. You've done good by telling them how you wouldn't be friends with either if they made you choose but you've also got to take their feelings into consideration. Like for me when the 3 of us were friends they would spend a lot of time with each other (cause they had so many classes and like a club together) and I was sad cause I always felt left out. Now I still feel left out(cause they still have so many classes and a club together) and both of them have so many friends and I really only had them and then I lost one and I can't confide in the other so it sucks. So make sure that on both of your friends sides that if they want to talk about it even though you don't want to hear it it might be better to let them talk about it(that is if they want to confide it in you cause they feel like they can't tell others). You have to be able to listen and understand what they say even if its something you don't want to hear cause they're your friends right? So just talk to them again explain your situation and tell them to calm down and that if they need to talk about it you're there for them and that they should get over it. Me and that other girl did and now we don't speak to each other and rarely acknowledge each other but it hurt more when I couldn't talk to somebody about the problem.So make sure that neither side feels like you like them less. I never talk about that girl with my friend only cause its an uncomfortable subject every now and then she'll come up but we quickly steer the conversation in different directions. But you know just keep talking and working it out with them. Eventually either the three of you will settle down with a decision or you'll lose one or both. But keep trying your best. I hope my shoddy answer helps (i'm sorry for the shoddyness) Good luck.
2007-02-02 22:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by rena_kurama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have told both of them the right thing that you like them both and will not choose. The rest is up to them.If they make you feel this upset maybe you should back off a bit and spend time with other friends and maybe thay will stop and think about how it would be if you were not either's friend. Luck to ya.
2007-02-02 22:18:38 · answer #3 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hate is a very strong emotion. You should really remove it from your vocabulary. Another thing you might do is CHECK SPELLING before you submit your question(s). You do not have
to hang out with both of them at the same time; you also do not have to tell the one that you were with the other; and if either or both get made at you, they are NOT your friends...certainly not your BEST friends!
2007-02-09 20:23:31 · answer #4 · answered by sillyone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
0MG!! i had to deal with this same situation. Me and my 2 bestfriends were like 3 peas in a pod, i left (moved away) and when i came back a year later, i found out that they had fought and now hated eachother....
We're all cool again but i basically showed each of them the same love i showed before and i respected the fact that they didn't like eachother and never brought one up when with the other, eventually they got over themselves. [good for me]
anyway, if they get mad when ur with the other than that shows a big sign of being immature....kinda pathetic...All you can do is respect that they dont like eachother and treat them with equally the same love!
2007-02-10 17:52:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u were right for choosing not to be drug into the middle of it. if they are both ur friends then just let them know that. next time one of them gets mad at u for hanging out with the other one just tell them that u dont want to choose between them and ur not gonna. if they cant accept the fact that ur being a good friend to both parties then they dont deserve ur friendship.
2007-02-02 22:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by Abby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a common thing that they both like and draw their attention toward it. then when they're about to walk away tell them to stop and ask them why they're mad at each other. then try to fix the problem
2007-02-02 22:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by Kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem told them i was not in the fight & they should proubly be a good example
2007-02-10 12:23:38 · answer #8 · answered by kk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you call them friends i cal them selfish bitches , sorry but if they were true friends they would not treat you this way. join a club meet new people forget them.
2007-02-09 17:45:34 · answer #9 · answered by fushia 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should probibly tell them how you feel
2007-02-02 22:22:46 · answer #10 · answered by charmed 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋