After a Divorce,,,did you have a different feeling towards the world?

Question

I mean,,, I have this different image of everthing... Do you think going on medication is a solution? if you are depressed

Answer 1

I had a different outlook on everyone and everything. For the first time in 20 years I felt as if I was in control of my life. It wasnt anger for me... it was more like I wasnt sure about trusting others. I had a very hard time learning to trust again. I remarried three years later, and sometimes I still have trust issues after four years of marriage. Thank God, I have a wonderful, caring and understanding husband who is very supportive of me. He lets me be me.. something I was never able to do in my first marriage. If your feeling depressed, dont be ashamed of those feelings. But, please, talk to someone. Medication is not the answer for everyone.. your doctor will know. Good Luck!!

Answer 2

No, I didn't have a different feeling towards the world. My hopes and dreams were dashed and I was deeply disappointed and felt like I had failed. But, I also knew that it was the best thing for me to do even though it was so very painful, it was more painful than experiencing family members deaths.

Sometimes people do well treating depression caused by events with a temporary use of medication to help get through. Once through they go off them. You need to talk to your doctor if you are contemplating that.

Answer 3

I think its normal to have a different outlook after a divorce, whether its in a good way or a bad, usually the person that was left will be hurt and mad..and have a negative additude on the world.. those that left a marriage, will have a sense of freedom and/ or excitement towards the world.

For me, i started to go through a self distruction phase right after my divorce, I figured id F**K men over before they could do it to me, luckily for me i found someone that made me realize that , that wasnt me.. Then i went through boughts of depression for years after.. on and off..

If its bad enough that u just cant seem to pull urself out of the funk, then yes go to a doctor and see what they say , if they say meds are the way, then do it.. hopefully its just a phase, and they wont be needed for very long..

Answer 4

Nope I didn't have a different feeling towards the world. I wasn't depressed after my divorce. I think medication is good if you've been DIAGNOSED as having depression. I don't think medication should be taken simply for the "divorcee' blues".

Answer 5

Your world has been shattered. Yes you are depressed. Medication is a good thing, and it might only be temporary. If you think you might be depressed, see your doctor and tell him/her that you would like some sort of medication to help you through this period. Eating right, exercising will also help.

Good luck-I know this is a hard time. It gets better though!

Answer 6

I am currently going through a divorce & I face highs and lows constantly. If my lows were bad enough I would certainly consider going on medication to help me out. Although once when I was married I went on Prozac and it seemed to intensify my negative feelings. Each person will react differently so it might actually help you.

In my circumstance I have realized as time goes on I feel incredibly happy and free. I feel like I can conquer the world and do just about anything. This is all considering I have no job, no place of my own(had to move back in with my parents), have 2 kids to take care of etc...I try and FORCE myself to look at the positive in things. When I feel like I can't go on or face the world I think of something that is intriguing to me, set goals and work toward them in any way I can. I've found that just a tiny bit of accomplishment motivates me to keep working and work that much harder toward my goals and then that actually distracts me from my worries.

Find something, anything that interests you and dive in. For me something as simple as listening to my favorite song over and over and over really helped me out. Do something positive to make yourself feel better. Good luck to you!

Answer 7

i wasnt depressed i was angry at the world I had 44 years of being pushed around by everyone .I changed and became the person i really was and liked myself for the first time in my life and did things i had always been afraid of doing and took chances and well .. never depressed about the divorce but it definitely changed me for a long time and then i got married again to someone else and well we all change over the years to our lives so .. no meds not the answer take a break treat yourself well and do things you have always wanted to do ..thats the answer

Answer 8

I was relieved when I got divorced. If you're depressed then go to the doctor. There are anti-depressants that are for temporary use, like while you get your life back and you can stop taking them after a few months or years.

Answer 9

I had a different outlook but it was a better one. As far as medication, it's not always the answer, first you need to get to the root of your problems then if meds are necessary and a last resort that's what you do. I think you should try counseling first, let the professionals determine if you really need meds.

Answer 10

After a divorce everything in your life changes.The way you see things after may not be the same after you divorce.So much changes that it effects the way you feel and think.I think that the stress of splitting up gives you a little negative attitude and depression.This tends to give you a different out look.