I am a very warm, affectionate person and I live in a house with my dad, stepmom and brother who don't understand the concept of affection or my need for it. I have expressed my feelings to them in the past but nothing ever seems to change. This results in me feeling very unloved, misunderstood and out of place. I have no one else to go to for love and my family doesn't seem to understand the meaning of the word. What should I do to cope?
2007-02-02 14:08:43 · 6 answers · asked by broadwayaprilandtiffany 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I feel your pain. I too grew up in a home that was often void of love and it’s expression. With people who did not know how to express feelings or emotions to each other. I understand your frustration and confusion over this and wish things could be different for you. I would encourage you to remember that I’m sure your family members do love you in their own unique way. And however unsatisfying that may be to you, it is love on some kind of level so you can be thankful for that. For me what helped was pouring out my love to those family members that where not able to return it. Deep down inside they needed to be loved too and with me loving them in time it opened them up to receive that love and even give it in return. Be proud that you're someone that can feel and love, that’s a very special gift and one day you’ll make some lucky person very happy!
2007-02-02 14:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by G. H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to understand that there is love. If there was no love at all, they wouldn't take time even talk to you, or give you room in the house. Think about it, could you share a house with some one you don't like? There is love, its just not be expressed in the ways that you need or want. The bible tells us that we are to do unto others as we would want done to us. This doesn't mean that we will get want we want when we want it, but, instead it means to live by a higher standard no matter how long it takes. Family my not respond to you now, but, if you create that person inside of you who lives by a higher standard of loving others people will notice and respect/love you for it.
2007-02-02 23:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by NCSMALLBIZ.COM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to first love yourself before you can become loveable to others. Start learning the EVERYONE on the planet is an individual and behave differently than you might WANT them to. You don't get to call all the shots. There are other people living in the same house you live in and the world doesn't revolve around you. First thing I suggest is for you to grow up and stop expecting everyone to conform to YOUR expectations and accept those in your family as they are. THEN maybe you will be shown more affection. No one is going to be affection toward a spoiled brat.
2007-02-02 22:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Aww
I have the same thing. Try spending a lot of time with friends. Eventually they become part of your family =]
Also try to look for little things your family does for you. I did this and realized there are little things that they do for me that show me they love me. They might just not be very good at expressing how much they do love you =]
2007-02-02 22:14:27 · answer #4 · answered by Maddy G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to much time on your hands .You are 24 years old, move out and literally get a life .
Some day you will find the right person and your life will be complete .
Just be patient .And stay busy .
2007-02-02 22:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk it out with your friends, if family isn't helping, friends should, or counseling.
2007-02-02 22:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by wordwaves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋