why are all these young girls getting pregnant?

Question

The baby of the year where I'm from the mother is 11. I am so scared I have two girls and one is already 10. Anyone else as scared as me?

I have already had "the" talk with her andshe knows about the real words and ways that getting pregnant can happen. I even played the scare tactic by showing her pictures of STDs on people. We had the talk early because the menstral cycle comes early in our family.

Answer 1

I just want to say, as a 20 year old, a lot of you sound very harsh and judgemental. It is not a death sentence to have a child when you are young. A lot of women do this, and have done this historically. Not everyone wants to go to college and have a career. Some women just want to be mothers.

My opinion why there are so many unwanted pregnancies? Sex is promoted and is so casual in the media. I guarantee that is the reason.

Young people don't know about sex? There are just as many adult and married women who don't know when they ovulate or when they are fertile as there are teens.

Answer 2

I have a cousin that is 13 years old and 5 months pregnant...and the part of it that makes me the most sick is that her Mom was all for her having a baby. I by no means wanted to see her have an abortion or anything but the fact that her mom told us at Thanksgiving that she and her boyfriend were trying to have a baby made me absolutely sick. I know that alot of young girls from where I live are pregnant also and honestly they are the ones that their parents dont care what they do or who they hang out with. So I think as long as you are a good mom and listen to your kids dont judge them if they do come to you and tell you about something that you would rather not hear about then you will be just fine. Just remember you were their age once. Good Luck.

Answer 3

I'm 19 and pregnant. Some say this is young.. But i think its a perfectly fine age. My school had an excellent sex ed program. Some people just make misakes as they get older. For me, I moved out @ 18 and i was going out partying @ bars cause my boyfriend was the bouncer so i could get in anywheres. Just one drunken night can lead to it. I don't regret it. And people cant blame education, They should be talking to their kids ahead time about sex and protection.. Don't scare them away either. Its important. I wish my mom was more open about it and would of insisted on me going on birth control instead of me trying to hide it from her. Just a personal Opinion. Be an open mother with your daughters and make sure to let them know that they can talk to you about anything and not be afraid to come to you.

Answer 4

Terrified. My daughter's still a baby, but I am dreading her teen years. I can only imagine what it will be like in 13 years or so. I know that when I was a teen, there were a lot of girls in my school having baby's. The best thing you can do is have that talk with her now, before you two start speaking different languages (teen talk and 'parents just don't understand' talk)

Answer 5

im a mother of a 11 yr old...this scares the crap out of me to think someone my daughters age is having a baby...she is still a baby herself. It starts at home, if you are a postive role model for your children and also being there for them to talk to. This helps out a lot, i was 18 when i got pregnant and had her at 19, this was young for me. I do my best with what i have being a single mother and all, i try to show her the rights and wrongs in life and for everything there are consequences. i hope this helps somewhat anyways.

Answer 6

Yes, but you need to talk to your daughters at the approporiate time. I think a lot of girls are not getting the information and really understanding how to be "safe" I also do think the realize how much of a responsiblility a child actually is. It is best to keep an open and honest relationship with your daughters, then you know if they are having sex and you can actually do somthing about preventing pregnancy with them.

Answer 7

It's very scary, the active sexual activity among children nowadays.

All I can recommend is, don't leave your girls unsupervised for one second when they are around boys. Have them dress modestly (loose clothing that covers the top and legs; no bare midriffs or tight pants or anything that will attract the attention of males), teach them to turn away when boys talk "cute " around them (by cute I mean suggestively) don't allow them to date boys until they are 18.

Your daughters are at a good age when they can start developing their own talents and academic interests, whether it's sports, dancing, music, art, etc. They don't need to be socialized into male dependency for any reason.

Most importantly, teach your girls to love and value themselves as human beings, not sex objects play toys for boys, and they'll be okay.

Answer 8

Because they have no common sense when it comes to sex. I also think it is the parents fault for letting their teenage kids do anything they want but most of the blame goes on the teenagers i mean how hard is it to buy a 75 cent condom? How hard is it to go and get put on birth control?
I think it is a shame for young girls to be getting pregnant. I guess they have no life.

Answer 9

I have 3 girls (2 to 6) and 1 boy (9) and yes, this scares me but at the same time, I am not the type of parent that would allow my child to be alone without parental supervision (doesnt have to be mine) and I know the values that I'm teaching them. I was pg with my oldest at 15 and had him at 16. Although I love him dearly, I hope that my children never go thru that. Sex is a special gift from God reserved for marriage.

A lot of the problem is the breakdown of the family. When the children (both boys AND girls) don't have two loving commited parents, they have warped views of love and where to seek it.

Answer 10

First of all, the rate of teen pregnancy has actually dropped in recent years. (See link.)

However, many communities (and most of the state of Texas) feel that it isn't neccessary to teach safe sex to kids - that they only need to learn abstinence. This clearly does not work, has not worked for generations, and will not work in the future. Kids need to learn the truth, as well as what to do when the time comes for them to have sex.

We can continue to help the teen pregnancy rate decrease by supporting safe-sex education in our schools. We also need to talk to our kids.

Look at the mixed messages - public service ads make it sound like you can get herpes from having sex once. (Which you can.) But ads for Valtrex make it sound like living with herpes is no big deal!

PSA's against pregnancy say "It only takes one time," while ads for other products make it sound like it's difficult to get pregnant (for ovulation kits, etc.)