trapped and alone?

Question

has any one had a boyfreind that does not let you out of his sight not even to go see your sister?It really sucks.He does not want to spend time with me he just does not want me to spend time with anyone else.

this used to be cute now after 5 years it makes me sad cause my life is passing me by and so did all my freinds and now my family.

i just want you all to know that even though i dont know any of you i am so touched by your genuine concern i do want out but i am scared thanks to each one of you for understanding.

Answer 1

Summer, please read this carefully. I don't know why you thought this was cute at anytime. He is being controlling and if he have not done it by now, he will turn out to be violent. The reason he does not spend time with you, is so that he can do what he want to do. People with control issues always work to get you away from the people you know, so you won't be told anything and so you won't be introduced to anybody better than them, because they know they are rotten to you. So the reason you abide by this rule or way of life have to be you are in fear of him even if you don't realize it right now. Call a family member and tell them what you feel. You are not alone, but you are trapped.Im so sorry that you are in this place of your life. You must seek some kind of help. Even if you leave him, you will feel a lose of some kind, because you have been caged up like an animal. I know this, because I have an ex husband that thought he was gonna make my life hell like that. He would say,'' Don't go outside and stand on the porch, don't take the trash out, wait for him at the door when he get home from work, Almost got me fired from my job ect... I was too strong for him to break, so I had to fight for 6 months, until he realized he couldn't beat me and he couldn't out talk me.I just refused to be bullied, cheated on, lied to, lied on, cursed, hit, and nervous all the time. Leave while you can. If he ever told you,'' nobody is gonna love you like I love you'' RUN RUN RUN AND DON'T LOOK BACK. What Jule just described about this behavior I went thru all of that. I couldn't have any female friends or else I was the worst lesbian names ever called. All men wanted me according to him, He would follow me to church even if he was drunk as a sailor. PLEASE LEAVE.

Answer 2

Leave him. Get help. That's scary.

I was in a relationship like this in my teens and I ended it as soon as he got creepy. Guys like this are abusive, and they're usually the ones that kill their wives and girlfriends. He has real problems, and he seems *very* insecure. He sees you as his possession and although that may have been flattering, you need to realize that it's very unhealthy for the both of you. Please please, talk to someone like a counselor or therapist and get some advice on how to end it as soon as possible. Also don't try to end the relationship alone. Always have someone around that will back you up, to make sure he won't take his anger out on you or rather so he won't try to convince you that things will change. They never do. Tell him good riddens and don't look back. Life's too short.

Answer 3

mine is the same way...and he hits me jackpot,right?? not...if he doesnt listen to you when you tell him EXACTLY what you just told us...he doesnt care enough..not that he doesnt care...but its not enough...think about it..you have ONE life ONE chance ONE YOU to do what makes you happy...you dont get to take time back once you've lost it. I believe that this may be one of the hardest things in life to do..to leave someone that you truly love, because you know that it's just not what you deserve.you may feel like that one day and be happy the next and then he does something and your sad again. its not a way to live and you DESERVE to hang out with your family, to go out with friends...or to simply go to the store if thats what YOU WANT to do. You have free will. he made the choice to begin to control your life, now you can make the choice to get out and thats a consequnce he will need to deal with it. I wish you luck hun and just remember that this is your life and you should live it in a way that makes you happy to wake up every day!!

Answer 4

This all end with a visit to the Dr. Phil show or some one going to jail. GET OUT NOW!
Men don't act like that for no reason. He clearly has some major problems that he needs to deal with and you don't need to be there while he is dealing with them.

Answer 5

Run for the hills! This is psychological abuse...seriosuly. Life is too short to waste. You deserve better!

I pulled this off a domestic abusive site:
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Isolation:

Interfered with her relationships with family, friends or co-workers; Made accusations of infidelity if she spoke to another man, or accused her of being a lesbian if she has female friends;
Interrogated her about her whereabouts and the people she talked to; Prevented her from attending her faith community;
Refused to allow a woman to go to work school or other independent activities;

Answer 6

uhh, hes controlling you
why are you there?
get out!