I dated someone from my workplace 2 years ago. After we broke up I was constantly worried he would start dating one of the other girls sitting next to my cubicle that I worked with on a daily basis. For years after the breakup I had to put up with the hurt of seeing him flirt with the girl sitting next to me at work. I finally left the company so don't have to deal with it anymore but it was a nightmare. It was too hurtful the close proximity of him flirting with someone that worked right next to me that I had to see on a daily basis. Work is a great place to meet guys. How could I still date guys at work in the future but avoid this situation (the possibility that he will date someone I work with on a daily basis after the break up)? It's hard enough going through a breakup. Imagine if the love of your life started dating or got married to your co-worker sitting next to you?
2007-02-02 13:31:35 · 4 answers · asked by Citygirl 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
About 85% of relationships start in the workplace. It can be a good idea for car-pooling and things like that. But there are some bad sides of it. It really all depends on how professional you both are. If you're gonna be catty and jealous when he talks to other females.. then no, its a bad idea. Or if after you break up, you wont want to see him anymore then it's an even worse idea.
I've seen people date at my work place and it practically destroyed the people that were in the relationship.. be careful
2007-02-02 14:00:35 · answer #1 · answered by WORLD FAMOUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you should keep work and personal life very separate. I learned this the hard way, similar to your story, and was really hurt by him and his actions. Also, I have found that even sharing personal stories with co-workers that you think you can trust is a big mistake. I worked with this woman who I thought I could share my life issues with, and she ended up backstabbing me and talking behind my back. It took me a while to learn this, and when I did, I was speechless, hurt, and wanted to quit my job after that. She humiliated me. I even take it to the extent that I do not use personal email at work. Luckily, I work from home now, so no drama at all.... its a great way to get away from all that craziness. Bottom line, keep your work separate from your home-life, and you will find it much easier to stay at your current job and have lots of respect from your co-workers. Trust me, people love to dish dirt about your situation behind your back. Hang in there!
2007-02-02 13:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by barbmastman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have already answered your own question...
A lot of companies have rules in place about dating a co-worker as well.
I understand it is a good way to meet guys, but there are other ways as well.
I would not do it, it is not a good idea.
2007-02-02 13:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by BMW BFD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's a bad idea. You already know this, wait until you're really , really sure this is the guy for you, then refuse to go out with him becaause you work together, if he changes his job to date you, then he's definitely the one....
2007-02-02 13:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by mesmerized 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋