ok...i am 15 and i already have 2 kids ages 3 and 1. and yes, if you were all wondering i am still with the father of both of my children. anyway, i am expecting ANOTHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i dont no how 2 tell my mom!!!!! she already completely ignores me now because i have 2 kids. do i even bother 2 tell her? i mean, she wasnt even there for my daughters birth 3 years ago. she kicked me out of the house, and now i live with my boyfriend who is seventeen. i dont know why she ignores me like that, because my kids are perfectly taken care of and my boyfriend and i are both still in school. how do i tell her i am pregnant again??????
YES THIS IS TRUE FOR ALL OF THOSE WHO THINK I AM LYING!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-02 13:15:06 · 19 answers · asked by ♥SeXy♥ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Of course you should tell her. But I feel it would be best if you sit down and have a heart to heart. Be open, honest, and respectable. Your mother probably has some concerns that you two need to work out. I can clearly see that you too have some issues with her. Children need extended family in their lives. Do all that you can to try to keep a good relationship with her, just try for your kids. Good luck!
2007-02-02 13:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not that we think you're lying. We're wondering how you could both be in school. I'll bet your bf's mother takes care of your kids.
Your mother has reason to be disappointed and now she'll think you even can't manage birth control. You have to be living with your bf's parents or in public housing. A 17 yr old and 15 yr old without high school diplomas aren't exactly earning a lot of money. Sure, your mom's disappointed. You aren't even married! Do that and then make your marriage last, get down on your knees and kiss your bf's mother's feet for taking care of your children.
Just tell your mother you're pregnant. At this point, what is the big deal?
2007-02-04 21:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably dont need to tell her. One word of advice. Stop getting knocked up! Or at least use a condom or something for God's sake. There is no way any 15 year old girl should have 3 kids. There's no way a 18 year old girl should have 3 kids. I mean thats gonna be an awkward conversation with your kids when you are in your 20's and they are the same age you were when you were getting knocked up.
2007-02-03 01:55:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first Congrats...and make sure you do stay in school even with this baby. And after this one is born..I would consider having a shot they have that prevents pregnancy for 3 years. You can talk to your Dr. and get more info about it. But if she wasnt there for you before what makes you think shes gonna be there for you now...Just come straight out and say.." Mom I know you already think Im a disapointment but i do have 2 wonderful kids and Im finnishing school plus im a great mom. And even though you dont approve of me and the way ive decided to start my life, Im having another baby." Good Luck to you and your family.
2007-02-02 22:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!!! It really nice that you take care of your babies and love them so much! However, I do understand why your mother is mad and everything... imagine things this way: you are still very young and she didn't get the chance to enjoy you that much! So anyway.. I would say that you call her, let her know that you are pregnant and that you are very happy with the idea, let her know that you want to share things with here. There is a chance that she understands, but maybe she doesn't... don't worry if that happens, people sometimes don't feel the same way as we do. I would suggest that you don't have any more babies for a while, enjoy the 3 little angles you've got and wait until you graduate so that things get better, you are still very young and there is a lot of things waiting for you out there. Good luck with your babies and congratulations!!
2007-02-03 19:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you was 13 when you had your first kid? And You was 14 at your second childs birth? And not your 15 and having another one?Oh my gosh I totally see why your mother is mad and is ignoring you.I dont understand how you at 15 can be pregant adn already have 2 kids? I myself am not much older than you adn you have more kids than i prob. ever will i dont understand how you can do it.But I mean you have to be straight forward and just tell her.But i do have to give your props about being with the babies dad adn being in school.But you and your boyfriend nees to conceder you are still kids you need to slow down and think about your actions! Good luck!! Hope everything goes well with your childs birth and how many ever more you have GOOD LUCk!!
2007-02-02 21:24:56 · answer #6 · answered by *** 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow you are very young to have 2 already. Were you planning this child? I expect you will have some very harsh people answering this. Just tell your mom about baby #3. If you are happy and a good mommy then that is all that should matter. I do wish you the best of luck and glad you don't regret your children. They are your world so if your mom is negative that is her problem and in the long run her loss for not being part of their lives. She will regret her decision in the future. Good luck to you!
2007-02-02 21:21:56 · answer #7 · answered by H T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should ask yourself why you still bothering on telling her. From what it sounds like she doesn't care anymore. I know it is sad to be in a situation where your mother cuts you off from her life. Yet this is an issue that she needs to resolve herself. Tell her about the new baby but don't expect her to accept the news.Just respect how she feels .Maybe in time the wounds will heal. Your mother is in a place right now where she feels betrayed and hurt since you didn't turn out to be the daughter she wanted to be. But it's always a best to move forward and not dwell on the past.Its been years, i hope your mom will learn to forgive and accept your kids.
2007-02-02 21:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by bittersweetlove21 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off Congrats on the baby!! I am a mother myself and am very proud of how you are excepting the responsiblity most your age wouldnt. Its very mature of you and the father. I am very happy you two stayed together as well, it helps a lot.
I think it is very wrong of your mother to not be speaking to you. I know i would be angry that you didnt wait till you were a little older but i would never not want to see my grandchildren let alone my very own child. On the topic of how to break it to your mother.. I would simpley write her a letter. Tell her how things are going with school and with your other two children and then try to work in that your sorry if you disapoint her in anyway but your providing for your family and you guys are all doing fine in fact your expecting another bundle of joy. She doesnt have to like it but she should know whats she missing out on. You could include pictures too of the two you have and then when the third is born send her one of him or her as well. Shell come around just might take her longer than most. And if she doesnt come around thats okay too just knowing that you tried to include her not exclude her is comforting too.
2007-02-02 21:30:23 · answer #9 · answered by proudtobeme_2003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who takes care of your kids while you're both in school?
If your mom wants nothing to do with you, the don't tell her. After all, she's the one who allowed all of what she disapproves of, so she should at least be woman enough to stand by her daughter whom she allowed to get pregnant at 11(or 12).
2007-02-02 22:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by TJTB 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋