HELP! My husband wont stop playin video games!!?

Question

my husband goes to work comes home and plays his video game .... thats it!! Its an act of congress to get him to do anything when he finally does do something he just bi*ches about it. We also have a 1 year old that he pays no attention to! HELP me come up with some way to stop the video games without a huge fight!! thank you

Answer 1

I am sorry to say it's an addiction.

You are not alone.

(It's not world of warcraft, is it? because the expansion just came out)


The only thing you can do is sit him aside and explain how you feel when he ignores you.

Tell him that not only is he a co-parent, he is your companion- and he is ignoring you and those that love him.

Ask that he get off by a certain time, or schedule time for movies or family activities.

If that doesn't work, when he goes to the bathroom, start broadcasting obscenities on the game and they will deactivate his account.

Answer 2

Communication and Compromise! Always the hardet and most obvious but...always the best option. Don't talk to him about it when he is playing a game or when you are arguing. He won't listen. Discuss it at a time when things are good, calm and happy. I've learnt that this is the secret. He will be more willing to listen and compromise and so will you.

You cannot and probably do not expect him to stop playing altogether. Negotiate and agree to him playing only x hours a week. Be clear and specific about what days and times and that outside of that, the video games are out of bound.

Video games can be addictive just as with drugs, gambling etc and you must understand that if it excessive use of video games then he is probably using it as a form of escapism. What is he escaping from? Reality? Problems?

Let him have his fun but also explain that it is extreme and how it makes you feel. Don't assume he knows the impact it is having on you.

Explain the impact he i having on your child. Maybe come up with a few idea of things he will enjoy doing with your child and put them to him. Parenting doesn't come naturally to a lot of people and he may feel lost about his role as a father or is not coping very well.
Remember to discus this when you are both calm and happy. All the best !

Answer 3

You could try playing the video games as well ! just a thought...
When your hubby gets in after work & sits down to play his video then thats the time for you to sit down & chill also... don't carry on with the house jobbies, no washing, no cooking, no cleaning, just pic up a mag or book & read that whilst he's blasting away ? or you could take your little fellow out for a walk or something, I'm sure your hubby wont expect that, then perhaps later you can talk & you need to explain that your both in a relationship that needs work putting in by both of you and you need to work together to go forwards ! Theres nothing wrong with playing video games etc but I'm sure theres a time & place for it and I think thats after all the family jobbies, baby sorting etc been done !
Take it easy & keep calm, the best way forwards I guess is for you to explain that things may need to change... for the good of the family, perhaps try getting a nice meal ready & a little romance going !!!! then KAPOW hit hubby with how your feeling !

best a luck

Answer 4

He's totally stressed out about having a kid. It takes men a long time to come to grips with their new life, and the loses of the romantic life of a couple without a kid. This is a serious problem that shouldn't be taken lightly. It's not about the video games, it's about his life and his unhappiness. He is deeply unhappy and needs to start talking, even if he says some hurtful things ("I wish I never had a kid," etc.) Get it out in the open, that's the only way for him to grow. He may need time, he may need to move to a friend's for a month. (My good friend ran away from his wife for a month of drinking before he came to grips with the reality of having a child. He is now a happy and committed father!) Having kids is really challenging. I know what he's going through. You need to have a difficult conversation, but only good will come from it!

Charles

Answer 5

Leave him.
That might help him to realize that it is important to actually pay attention to the one you intend to spend the rest of your life with.
No fight. No drama. Just go.
He could set a time-limit and actually get involved in his own life, but if he'd rather escape full-time, then leave.
I'd rather know I was alone, then feel rejected day after day.
Honestly, I think he needs a wake-up call. His priorities are skewed. You don't want to nag, act the parent, etc. If you have told him your needs and he continues to ignore them, then leave his stupid butt. I imagine he will either come to his senses or you will find out he really is tuned out and cannot tune in. In either event, do not waver. Do not fight. I would not be married to someone who did not care that I was unhappy and who did not want to spend time with me. I think you can work this out. Check out some marriage solution sites for some very good ideas on how to have a successful marriage.

Answer 6

If I were you try to look good daily and do the same thing, but give yourself a day off. Tell him that you are going out with some of your girlfriends and just enjoy. do it every weekend and he will notice the sudden change in you and eventually he will be feeling left out since he is too busy on his video game. Nothing more fun than a husband
aching for you. He is being a a dumbass so he deserves that.

Answer 7

my husband doesn't sound AS bad, but he plays Play Station a lot and it annoys me! But, it's my fault because I bought him the dang thing.

Tell you what, my friend did this to her boyfriend, she was able to open up the PS2 without it being discreat, and snipped on wire... it just has a little malfunction for about a day and completely shut down the next thinking it was a system problem... he stopped playing video games after that because he had no money to buy a new one (because he didn't have a job because he played video games all day and lived off of our government)

Answer 8

There is always an underlying reason. Either he is still a boy or he is avoiding some important issues he must deal with. Maybe he hates his job, problem at work, financial issues, frustrations, so on.

I played video game years ago when I was waiting for an important job offer that took over 6 months to develop. I didn't want to be told my dream was impossible but didn't want to argue about it so I turned to video game. The offer eventually came and I stopped immediately.

Only you understand your husband and the easiest way to deal with him

Answer 9

I understand, My husband is also into them and so are a lot of my friends husbands. I called my mother once and told her and you know what she said. " I wish your father would have been home playing a vidio game , I could have dealt with that. But he was out at the bars everyday after work playing with other women, which would you rather have?" So I have accepted the games for now, hoping that since I don't ***** about it he will slack off little by little. And he has a little. lol

Answer 10

This guy need's a wake up call. Talk to him first, try to agree 1 week without the games to see if your relationship improves. Tell him how important this is to you and how you and your child is being affected by it. He's obviously using it as some sort of escape from reality. He needs to know how serious you are or nothing will change.