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I do not understand men... I mean if you can to things why can't I OR we for this matter??... It is the same thing what because you are a man...!!?? But i am told it is because i am a WOMEN that I must stay and be at home.. :) I find this so funny.!

2007-02-02 13:12:42 · 13 answers · asked by RAIN 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

13 answers

you have control but apparently don't realize it. Just look down
between your legs. Ultimately you have total complete control.
You just need to exercise it.

Or go out with your friends and leave his dumb a$$ at home.

2007-02-02 13:17:03 · answer #1 · answered by trichbopper 4 · 0 1

There is no such thing as 'must stay at home'. You are a free person and can work if you wish. Do not make excuses and say it is hard or he doesn't let me. If you agree to not go to work, it is only because you are afraid to stand up for yourself and afraid to argue. You have the power and you are giving this away. You are the one in control and you are the one letting him take this control.

I don't mean this is all your fault. Some men are very insecure, controlling and intimidating. But he will only do what you let him to. Sure he'll hate it but eventually if you are serious and willing to go for it, he will have no choice but to get over it.

If you choose not to out of fear, then you are insecure and you need to look at this.

Find your power girl! Believe in yourself. It is great to have a partner but he should be a PARTNER... not a boss!

2007-02-02 21:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

My husband does the same thing and I've tried to get him to see that it's a double standard, but with endless attempts, he just stick to his beliefs and I put my foot down on what I will tolerate and what I won't tolerate. Such as going to the clubs, hanging out all night long, disrespect, over indulgence in alcohol. So if he want his standards to be recognized then he must understand mind, if he wants peace in the home. I would feel funny hanging at the clubs now that I have a home, with kids to run and I work. So what's good for my money and time is good for his money and time. Set your own standards and give them to him.

2007-02-02 21:38:44 · answer #3 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 1 0

I think men in general need something to do...they like adventure...they like coming home and telling you what they did or what they have for you. They like to provide for the family. Women can work to...but remember that we're feminine ...not masculine, so it depends on what we're doing as a job. Have a good day!

2007-02-02 21:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by imag4dream 3 · 0 0

It is a culture thing. But it is a past culture. Now it is a control thing, you do NOT have to change who you are and you shouldn't have to compromise your happiness. Maybe he is not the one for you. This sounds like a very controlling relationship, been there done that.

2007-02-02 21:23:59 · answer #5 · answered by skkydreemer 2 · 1 0

honey since the beginning of time,men have always had a double standard, it's always ok for them and not for you,that's never going to change, for example my ex-boyfriend,had an ex-girlfriend he lived with for 3yrs,that he remained good friends with,I had no problem that they were friends, the problem was she used to call him demanding him to fix her house,take her to work etc, I could go on and on,I never put up with this bullshit from day one,what I found out he played on the fact she could never have children, so he used her to keep his last child for free,so in turn he would do things for her,because his cheap a*ss never compensated her for her time,If I did that sh*t and stayed friends with an ex-boyfriend,honey he would have dropped my a*ss so fast ,but of course that was ok for him, but not for me!!!
I was supposed to accept anything he did!!! he was so full of bs and double standards!!!! that's why I'm not with him today

2007-02-02 21:38:42 · answer #6 · answered by msalb 3 · 1 0

If that excuse/rationale works for him, he will use it.
He can only treat you how you allow him to.
He is selfish and immature and certainly much to insecure to have you out where you might meet a nice man who respects you.
You're right: It's laughable.

2007-02-02 21:17:14 · answer #7 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 1 0

Doesent work in my world. I dump them. Another bus always comes along. Im a free spirit and cant be controlled.

2007-02-02 21:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by JAMI E 5 · 0 0

I support your getting out. The first thing you should do is go to an Adult School and learn to read and write. Then you could actually communicate your question.

2007-02-02 21:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by collinbarnette 2 · 0 1

You don't sound like you have enough sense to leave the house safely! It's a good thing you're so easily amused!

2007-02-02 21:34:44 · answer #10 · answered by dog8it 4 · 0 1

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