2007-02-02 13:11:34 · 21 answers · asked by hotchoco_cheesecake 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Everyone has made mistakes, some a little bigger than others. Instead of living with this on your mind, maybe you can sit down alone with each other, and you could tell him the truth. Let him know right at the start how much you love him, and that you will understand if he is hurt and angry, but there is something you have to tell him. Not all men will take off packing as the others have suggested. Not all women who have been in this situations were just running around randomly and sleeping with everyone. In any case, a mistake was made. But, it doesn't matter how it happened, it's done and over with now. Hopefully, he will be able to accept the child as he always has, and can forgive you too. Counseling may be a good idea for both of you. He will be going through many different and difficult emotions, as you will. It may take a while for him to trust you again, but I do think that even difficult situations can be worked out with enough communication and outside help when needed.
2007-02-02 13:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
How come you have not been honest with him that she may not be his.... You need to let him know the possibility of this so he can take a paternity test... If he is not the father then get the real father involved the your daughters life.... You should have told your husband this along time ago... This was not fair to him and your daughter and marriage at all ... This is very sad and he will be very hurt and upset when he finds out.
2007-02-02 13:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever is best for your children, not for yourself. You obviously made a mistake...a big one, but you are human. What will determine if you are a descent human who learns from her mistakes will involve you stepping up and being honest and taking responsibility for what situation you have created.
You had an affair, or maybe you had seperated for a while. That is the first thing. The most important thing however is that you were thinking about yourself. Time to start thinkng of your children. You obviously have more than one. It is your responsibility to them, to do what is best by them. And NO... continuing to lie i not the right thing. Your husband needs to know, but your daughter needs to know also that this is not her biological father. Her siblings need to understand. The s**t will probably hit the fan at first and maybe for a while, but everything is solvable.
If you are truly sorry for what you have done, forgive yourself but please be honest to the rest of yoru family. It is about them too.
Good luck as this will not be easy for you or your family.
2007-02-02 13:47:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be prepared for whatever is to come. To have a child that you believe is your own who you have cared for and loved all this time and then told that she might not be his that would be a terrible thing to find out. Plus you cheated on him. If things come to worse and it ends if he still wants that father relationship w/her even though she isnt his let him but dont go on living a lie if the child isnt his he needs to know.
2007-02-02 13:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by hotmoma1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You owe it to your husband and your child to come clean. You are living a lie and it will only get bigger and hurt more the longer it stays "covered up". You need to let the real father know as well (if he doesn't already). You NEED AND DESERVE to deal with the mess you have made.
2007-02-02 13:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your husband really found himself a keeper. Basically, prepare to be left and have your family all informed of what exactly you did. First, you ran around on him and got pregnant. Then you let him believe it was his child. He has bonded with this child, loves this child, and will be devestated I am sure. Most likely, it won't change how he feels about the child. It will definitely effect how he feels about you. Rightfully so it seems.
2007-02-02 13:16:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DNA or Don't name names. He may want to know if you raise the question.. Why not be fair to the real father. You are living a lie and you deserve to get caught.
2007-02-02 13:14:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sports Maven 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That poor little child. What kind of mother puts her family in a predicament like this? Was it worth it?
You made your bed...gotta lay in it! Better pray you have a forgiving husband. He can take you to the cleaners if he wants to:-)
2007-02-02 13:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Might I suggest giving a call to the Maury show? Jerry Springer or Montel are also good shows.
2007-02-02 16:17:09 · answer #9 · answered by Vickie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on the "Maury" show - it would be a free trip and the paternity test won't cost a thing - you ought to get something good out of this.
2007-02-02 13:38:17 · answer #10 · answered by Sue T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋