I know that this story is going to be a little dumb to some of you but please I beg you and read it. The person I love and care about so much has just recently been accepted to UMD (a really huge college) and instead of me being happy about it, I got nervous and I'm concerned. I know that my mate loves me and that my mate is willing to do anything for me, but I don't trust a lot of people, especially college kids. I am a college student and I know what is like getting out of high school and going into college at a young age. And so I am afraid that my mate might do something that may gepordize our relationship. AKA-Cheat on me, un-intentionally. My mate is hot, and smart, and I know that people will be attracted by that and will try to pursue something. And I'm so afraid of something like that happening. What do you think I should do? How do you think I should be feeling? What do you recommend? PLEASE help me in anyway!! THANK YOU ALL
2007-02-02 13:10:06 · 2 answers · asked by Secret2Know 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You really need to reevaluate your relationship with this person. It sounds like you don't trust him. And you can't really say it's not him you don't trust it's other people...because you're not dating other people, you're dating him.So if he cheats on you then that is something he has chosen to do. And there is no such thing as un-intentinally cheating. If he makes the decision to do something outside of your relationship with another person (that is not okay with you) then he has chosen poorly.
Trust is something you have to earn.If he's earned your trust then give it to him until you know otherwise. If you can't trust him then you may want to consider the alternative to an exclusive relationship with him. Meaning maybe consider that the two of you may date other people, until you mutually agree to only see one another.
If you're constantly worried that he's unfaithful then you don't really have that good of a relationship. You have the idea of a relationship.
How does he feel about you being in college? Is worried about your faithfulness to the relationship? If not, then ask him what allows him to be so confident in you and then maybe take your cues from him. If he is just as worried about you then you two have a lot to talk about and your relationship is not off to the best of starts.
2007-02-02 13:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by dapoetic1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? You are freaked out because you know whats gonna happen.. this person is going away to university.. and they will find someone else.. its and old story.. you know it youve seen it and the story rarely changes.. Your freak out is your introduction to the real world..
Your freak out is a rational logical conclusion to said world.. youknow it and I know it.. but not much you can do about it.
My reccomendation? Find yerself a new one.. its all but inevitable..
Have a nice day
2007-02-02 13:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋