She will cry so hard that her little face turns bright red, her hands shake and she screams so loud I just cant believe that she can cry so hard. What should I do, Should I just hold her because she is so young or should I let her scream. It kills me to see her scream so hard though. any advice!!
2007-02-02 13:06:44 · 24 answers · asked by lil_ny_sweetie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
you can not SPOIL a baby under 6 months old, love is one of the main necessities of babies at that age, it is just as important as feeding, changing, bathing. Babies at that age need to feel love and closeness with their mother or primary caregiver. If you just leave a baby to cry it out they will not THRIVE like they should. Hold your baby as often as you can, most of the day, it is very crucial to the health of the baby, the more love you give your baby the better...and don't just hold her...talk, sing, read...your baby loves the sound of his mommy's voice and it encourages learning early on. Do not feel you are spoiling you baby, it is a need at this age...not a want.
2007-02-02 13:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by countrygrl278 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are there any other symptoms? My son has a milk protein allergy and we went months before we knew why he was always so uncomfortable. He would arch his back all the time as if in pain. He was usually calmer while we held him - I think because it put pressure on his little tummy. We tried gas drops and several different formulas but after having blood in his stool (sometimes visible but other times not) and diarrhea for three weeks. We were finally referred to a GI specialist and changed his formula to Neocate and he became a completely perfect child with no more pain and discomfort. I'm not a physician/professional but I don't think a 5 week old could be "spoiled" yet. I agree with the previous answer -- hold her, love her, comfort her. In the meantime, look for any other things that may seem a little out of the ordinary and talk to your pediatrician to make sure there is no physical discomfort.
2007-02-02 13:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by JenV 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing. Hold your baby and comfort her. I know it's hard to hear your baby cry. Your child may be experiencing colic and have gas but from your description it sounds like she's having separation anxiety. Your baby has been with you since conception and the womb is a warm and noisy place. She could hear your voice, your heart beat and the constant sloshing of the amniotic fluid. It's only natural that she wants to be near you. Also at this age she is incapable of manipulation. At this stage of life the child has not developped object permeance. This means that when she can't see or feel something it doesn't exist. Therefore when she can't see you, she feels abandoned. Of course, you do need down time too, so follow your mother's instincts. They are there you just need practice trusting them.
I hope this helps
2007-02-02 14:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by jenniferm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through a small similar fase. My son is almost 4 months now. I thought it was colic..so maybe it's that...talk with your Dr. But, don't let her cry just rock her...what I found out is my son will not nap or sleep (or when he's fussy) settle down...unless he is swaddled, if you know what that is. Also, try some calming music from a baby toy or something plus a pacifier. BUT definately try the swaddling and at the same time when you swaddle her in a blanket lay her in a swing so she can get the motion feeling to calm her!!!! =) Don't worry she will be fine!
2007-02-02 13:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by Izzie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
5 weeks is soooo young. Comfort her as needed. Babies get scared really easy and the only thing she is sure of is her mom. She has known you and your voice since the day of conception. At 5 weeks they just aren't ready for the world. Don't worry she'll settle soon. Congradulations, Don't worry! trust me, it'll pass. Don't let her cry too hard because she could give herself a hernia.
2007-02-02 13:16:19 · answer #5 · answered by jennifer m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's 5 weeks old! She needs to be held! You may want to mention something to the pediatrician next time if your baby seems implacable no matter what, but it sounds like she just wants you.
I think it's horrible that anyone in these answers is telling you that you could be spoiling your child. 5 week old children CANNOT be spoiled and they SHOULD NOT be left to cry it out. Sheesh.
2007-02-02 13:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by annieohbee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a mother of 3 under 3, I have some helpful tips!
1. Try placing her in a bouncer seat/vibrating seat in the bathroom and turn on the shower. (Do not put her IN the shower of course!) The sound of the running water is often all it takes to put her right to sleep.
2. Put your little screamer down and turn on the sweeper. I know it sounds crazy, but this has been failproof to put ALL my kids asleep. My youngest is 8 months old and if I have any issues with getting him to sleep, I can turn on the sweeper and within moments he is calm and going right to sleep.
3. Try placing her on your chest, and humming quietly. The gentle vibration may put her right to sleep.
Remember that a DRY, well fed baby is a happy baby. Remember "E.A.S.Y." Eat, Activity, Sleep and You time.- if she has recently eaten, and she's not tired, she may be bored and want your attention to please her. Babies are generally easily distracted, so try finding normal household things that may distract her (ceiling fans are infamous for this)
Good luck, congrats on your new little blessing and remember this is just a phase that she will eventually grow out of!
2007-02-02 13:14:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
At this age you may no longer make her do something, and you're no longer meant to. you would be nursing thoroughly on call for for the 1st month to 6 weeks. After that she would be able to slowly fall right into a miles better habitual. maximum newborns do no longer eat for 15-20 minuets, they only dont have the stamina and capability to. She is doing precisely what she might desire to.
2016-12-16 19:54:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was young like this age. I cried constantly. Turned out
I had some thing going on with my stomach when pressure was
applied to my stomach it stopped the pain. So they taped a half dollar to my belly button until this thing healed up. I wonder if picking up your baby is causing something not to hurt on her.
Just a thought. But the description really makes me think she is in pain. Babies cry when they are hungry and when they are in pain.
2007-02-02 13:11:35 · answer #9 · answered by trichbopper 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My daughter did the same thing. The Doc. said let her cry, it will not hurt her. She just has you well trained. So I did she screamed so hard and loud that the crib vibrated. I cried right along with her but left her in the crib. She finally quit, slept for about 20 hours and was fine and broken of always crying. Of course I had to phone the Doc and ask OMG will she ever wake up. Poor man, He chuckled assured me she would. She is a mother herself now.
2007-02-02 13:13:24 · answer #10 · answered by swamp elf 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋