she's going emo, i told her she shouldn't and she asked me to give her a really good reason why. she didn't fall 4 the "if u do it too much u could really hurt yourself" thing, and i can't come up with anything better. she also doesn't accept the "u're my friend i care about u're safety" thing either. what do i tell her?!!? i can't lose her, she's one of 3 friends i have. we're still friends, we still talk, nothing's changed except her skin being cut but i'm worried. help help HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-02 12:57:07 · 40 answers · asked by jynxpixie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Contact her parents, her teacher or some other authority. friends don't let friends go emo.
2007-02-02 13:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
She can be what she wants.
My friends say that about me too. Emo's just have a sort of...self problem,
If shes cutting herself for fun or for the image then shes not emo.
Emo people cut usually cuz they have a problem that they cant handle, and the flow of blood clears the mind. But talk to her about it. Shes just expressing herself. Also, did she just DECIDE to turn emo like that? You didn't mention that. Does she like the music, the look? Its not just that
Emo is the way you EXPRESS yourself in a certain way through a certain music.
So basically just give her a chance.
Tell her if she needs to cut again, to just call you, and talk it out.
Thats what my friends told me to do.
Not workin to well...but ill remember that they care.
TEll her you care. And you don't want to see her hurt.
And tell her 'What do you think would happen to me if you hurt yourself? I would die'
Or watever.
Thats what got me.
Good Luck
2007-02-02 13:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really lost here. I thought emo was about fashion, not cutting. I have a 12 year old son who likes to wear his naturally dark hair over his eye, which is how I found out about emo (we were looking at hairstyles online and his came up under that classification--first time either of us had heard of it). What is the connection between an emo look and cutting???
2007-02-02 13:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by Angela B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dose she have scars? O whatever why do you care she her own person let her do what she pleases I know I'm goth and emo let her be the way she wants to be just except it theres nothing diffrent about her just cause she cutts her arms it lets stres out or would you rather she start smokeing I do that to like one a year but so what I know I sound like a jerk but find some way to show her what could happen and if she dosen't listen just keep tryin if you really care about her try to show her what can happen untill you have tears in your eyes like try telling her if she cuts her rists that one cut can change her life tell her it might just kill her if she takes it to far tell her life has a meaning and one day she will find it she just has to wait like the rest of us tell her you know she has something in her future that is worth living for I hope this helps bye bye for now.
2007-02-02 13:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by A.C. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try and talk her into going for help. Usually, people that do this are trying to "release" pain from inside. Let her know that the pain, stress, and frustrations she feels inside can be helped without scarring herself for life. This type of pain release is only a short temporary and damaging fix, whereas there are ways to release this pain through therapy and/or medications with long lasting results. Her parents somehow should become aware of what she is doing to herself. If they are the kind of parents who could care less, she should be able to go a mental community health facility and get help. In the meantime, try to help her express her feelings, let her know you care about her, and listen to her if she does start talking.
2007-02-02 13:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just cuts herself to fit in with the emo crowd (well we do have hot guys) otherwise she does have a problem. My BFF just got out of a mental hospital for cutting herself on the school bus and some stupid preppy girl rated her out. Well nvm about that but she does need someone to talk to and help her in this difficult time. I have problems and I relive them through music but I used to do it in that way. just some people are different than others.
2007-02-03 18:09:40 · answer #6 · answered by Emizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, If she is going emo, theres nothing really you can do about it, but if shes cutting she needs to see someone.
I suggest talking to her parents about it because if she does have depression (A chemical imbalence in the brain) she needs to be seen by a doctor and may need anti depressants. Its good to know that she has such a caring friend :)
Good Luck !
2007-02-02 13:04:52 · answer #7 · answered by -Ashlee- Eeeep! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually people who cut themselves don't let anybody see it. They keep the cuts hidden. I used to do it when I was depressed and I realise that I was being a total fool, what's the point. I was so embarrassed by the marks that I never wore a t shirt and always put bracelets on to cover them up. Is she doing it for attention? You'll have to get her to a doctor though, or tell her mother, nobody would cut themselves if they weren't ill.
2007-02-02 13:03:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give her a red pen for her birthday, grab some black eyeliner and join her.
Okay. So, that was mean. Sorry. Couldn't resist.
Now, for the serious advice...
I've got a couple friends who do it regularly...
One who did it and is now trying to stop...
and one who will probably end up being a regular cutter but only does it once in a great while at this time.
One of them has carved a heart into her arm with a pin thingy and continues to carve it until it scars so it'll be permanate.
I'm against the cause.
But, there is really nothing you can do.
Tell her it's wrong
Some of the stuff that can happen
Keep her busy so she won't have time...
And that, my friend, is all I have to say.
2007-02-02 13:03:43 · answer #9 · answered by Vshak 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm sorry, my friend, but if u did what u could, either u accept the way she IS, or u don't.. One can't change the world and u have done what u could-I repeat- But it's someone else's choice, not yours. I can understand your efforts, your concern. But maybe it's not up to u anymore.Take care, a friend from Brazil, Nenon.
2007-02-02 13:37:59 · answer #10 · answered by nenon_andrade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it may be something hard for you to do, but you need to tell her parents. Honestly, she may be very mad at you for it, but if you really care about her, it has to be done. Maybe you can tell them so that she doens't know it was you who told. Find out where she hides her razors and things, and tell her parents where they are and where on her body she is cutting herself. They can "accidently" come accross the evidence, and confront her. It's very important this girl gets help, cause I'm sure there is a bigger issue going on here.
2007-02-02 13:06:42 · answer #11 · answered by My_Amira_Will 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋