Is it wrong to want another person's life?

Question

It's 1.50am in Birmingham, UK - and i'm wondering what I'm doing writing this. And suddenly it dawned on me that I hate my life - every element of it!

I'd choose another life if I could - but is it really bad to want someone else's life instead of your own?

I mean ideally i'd kill for Carrie Bradshaw's life in "Sex and the City" but hey that would be crazy!!!!!

What can a person with no self-confidence do (especially when she turns everything serious into sarcasm to laugh it off)????

Answer 1

Its almost 11 pm here in Kentucky, USA. You shouldn't have to want another persons life. I know if you look deep enough that you'll find that joy in your life. You are special with the life that you have. You should have self confidence, because I bet your are very beautiful inside and out. Sounds like you have alot going for you anyway. I read that you are a fashion student? Congrats on that! Just find stuff that you like to do and get out there and do it!!! You'll make friends and you have a life that makes your feel comy with your self!!!!

Answer 2

If you're going to long for someone else's life, at least long for one that's fact, not fiction. And then, you'd better be certain of all the facts. That old saying "Be careful what you wish for--you might get it" holds a very good warning.

You'll get a lot, lot farther asking yourself what you can do to change your life. You've identified one quality about yourself that you see as a negative--you've no self-confidence. Think about whether this is really true. I used to think the same of myself, yet once in a while I do a review of things I've done that took a heckuva lot of chutzpah, and I'm pretty proud of myself. So maybe it's not so true that you have no self-confidence.

And if it is true that your self-confidence is low, sure, you can boost it. Mostly by doing the obvious--JUST DO IT. (Borrowing a slogan from Nike, thank you!) Whatever "it" is. When you feel your low confidence blocking you, talking you down, just tell it to go to Hades and JUST DO IT. (As long as it's legal and not self-destructive, that is. No sense "just doing" heroin because you've been afraid to do so in the past--that's a sensible fear! No sense "just doing" car vandalism because you think it would make you feel big--that's putting an end to all possibilities for yourself.)

Want a different job? Know which one you want? Go apply for it. Interview for it. So what if all your insecurities are screaming? So what? The worst that could happen is that--you wouldn't get the job! Oy! So what? Probably neither did a couple hundred other people. Go apply for the next one.

Don't waste time and energy longing for somebody else's life. Sit back, take a look at yourself, what you really like, want, admire, value, etc., then determine how to achieve those things. THEN DO IT. Get your OWN LIFE. It's the only one you'll ever have.

Answer 3

i do not think you have thought this through, i mean isn't Carrie in the show an actress in disguise? Do you actually know what her life is like? i know that if it was me i would not choose another life just to correct my past mistakes in the future. You live your own life and no one can take that from you and you are the only person that can change it. Wanting to be someone else you may have a new set of luck or hate of life.

Answer 4

What you talk about is not uncommon at all. I bet many people, if not all, have had the same thought at different times. It is not really a bad thing if you look at it differently. How do we know what kind of life we want? We see it is other people's lives. So if you truly admire someone, or want the same things or lifestyle they have, make a plan that will help you achieve it. The lifestyle is the goal. But I promise if you sit back and wait for someone to give you a life, all you will get is a used life. Get out and make your own. And someday someone will look at you and say " I wish I had their life."

Answer 5

It's not wrong to want another persons life. But it is wrong to want to kill someone for their life because you can never have what they have because your not actually that person. I often wonder what it would be like to be someone else for a day but never wanted to kill them to have their life. And even if you did have their life then who's to say that that life would actually be the same as it is now? if you had that persons life you might make different choices to what they would make and then it wouldn't be someone else's life would it because you would have made that life your own. so what then? if you had someone else's life then that life would be yours so would you then want someone else's life? Its a crazy way of thinking cause you can never have someone else's life because you would only be making it your own.

Answer 6

no its not wrong they say the grass is always greener on the other side..i personally would like to b bridget jones...im halfway there as i wear big knickers on a fat day ...but sometimes my partners a plonker and i dont speak with a plummy accent

Answer 7

It's not wrong, what's wrong is probably your'e not doing something about it, if you want our Carries life then pack your bags and go to NY! I wish you luck my dear, because we all have times when we think our lives are poop but we just need to make a comeback!

Answer 8

its 11am my time. hey life is bad 'cos we sometimes make it so. sometimes our surroundings/families/friends etc. so its best that we try to worm our way around all these obstacles. try it. its tough - nothing comes easy, man. stop watching those silly tv shows. if u have to watch it dont be influenced by it. its tinseltown and not real.

Answer 9

[i]but is it really bad to want someone else's life instead of your own?[/i]

[b] Yes it's wrong to want someone else's life (why deprive them of their life style?) - but it doesn't stop you having the same kind of life as them.

You need to work towards it.

Feeling sorry for yourself is not a good start.[/b]

Answer 10

it's perfectly fine because it won't happen!