Im pregnant and im having serious second thoughts, i went to a family planning and they were all anti-abortionists and made me feel like **** and forced me into a decision i now know was not right for me. im scared about the procedure if it hurts,long term effects,emmotional effects etc, ive heard it can cause me to be steril also? now i dont need people writting me telling me how i shouldnt have dont it etc b/c i was on birth control and it didnt work. i just need help from women who had abortions and know what to expect,
2007-02-02 12:50:49 · 7 answers · asked by jordan herne 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I had an abortion 2 weeks ago. It wasn't an easy decision and not one I ever thought I would have to make. I now understand how you CAN'T JUDGE SOMEONE UNTIL YOU'VE WALKED IN THEIR SHOES!! I completely feel your pain and the emotional stress that you are going through. The clinic that I went to was absolutely wonderful. They won't judge you. They treat you with the utmost respect. You will need to speak with a counsellor before the procedure, then they will do an ultrasound to determine how far along you are. Once you are ready for the procedure, they will give you a narcotic to relax you. You will be completely awake but with me, a counsellor is with you the whole time, comforting you and telling you what's happening. Afterwards, you will need to stay in the recovery room for no more than an hour or so. You will also need someone to drive you home.
I never felt a moment of sadness after the procedure and it was the HARDEST THING I EVER HAD TO DO. It was the right decision for me at this time in my life. The one thing I did feel was relief that it was over and I could move on with my life. It has been 2 weeks and I only had a little bit of bleeding and hardly any cramping. During the procedure (which lasts approx. 5 minutes), you will feel quite intense cramping but it isn't that bad as long as you are prepared for it. As for sterility, the clinic will give you a list of possible side effects and risks and this is EXTREMELY UNLIKELY. Make sure you know how long the doctor that performs the procedure has been doing this for and that it is a decent clinic.
My thoughts are with you. Do what is right FOR YOU. It's your life and I understand that it isn't a decision made lightly. If you can't give your complete self to this child and it isn't the right thing for you NOW, then you need to come to terms with that and you need to feel peace with your decision. Once you have done that, you will be in a position to proceed with it, otherwise, if you don't find peace with this decision, don't do it. I was 7 weeks along when I terminated the pregnancy. I did it for the love of my 2 precious sons that I have and now they are able to have the best of me and hopefully I can now provide for them they way they deserve.
God bless and whatever you decide will be the right thing for you.
Sorry, just reading some entries from people who HAVE NEVER BEEN THROUGH IT - GIVE ME A FRIGGIN BREAK AND DON'T PREACH ABOUT SOMETHING YOU HAVE NO UNDERSTANDING ABOUT. IT IS NOT EASY TO RAISE A CHILD AND IT COSTS ALOT OF MONEY - BE REALISTIC AND TAKE ADVICE FROM SOMEONE WHO HAS BEEN THERE!!!
2007-02-02 13:03:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well there is a lot to consider, How old are you? Yes, it does hurt, they give you medication which really helps and don't let anyone make you feel guilty it's your life your dealing with and the decisions you make now effect you forever no matter what age you are. This is something that you need to feel 100% confident about so their are no emotional effects. Theirs only emotional effects if you let there be. But if you know you are not ready and you can't do a great job raising a wonderful member of society right now. I had an abortion when I was sixteen and no I don't regret it one bit, it was right for me and now I am 28 and have two absolutely wonderful children and I get to stay at home and raise them. I chose this for myself this lifestyle is not for everyone and that decision is respected completely. So make a wise choice and choose to live with it proudly and be ok so there are no emoitional damages.
Good Luck to you
2007-02-02 21:19:33 · answer #2 · answered by blue eyes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay listen i didnt even scroll down to see what other people wrote so im just going to have my say i have 4 beautiful children, i had my first when i was 17 and my last when i was 30, but i have been pregnant now going on my 6th pregnancy, and i too plan to have an abortion, no matter what anyone else says, because it is your body not theres and your decision not theirs, i had my first abortion when i was 15, and besides being scared it was not as bad as people make it out to be if you plan on being put to sleep then you will have lots of cramping when you wake up but it goes away after about 10 or 15 minutes, i dont know how far along you are but this is your decision good luck to you
2007-02-02 21:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by sherri c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never had an abortion myself, but I have 2 good friends who have. It is true that with abortion comes the risk of sterility... So if you feel like you may want to become a mother in the future, you should really think about that. Also, there are some serious emotional risks involved. One of my friends began feeling so guilty that she "murdered her baby" that she didn't feel like she deserved to live and tried to kill herself. Lastly, abortion is not a pleasant procedure. It is painful and the pain lasts for several days after the actual procedure. Just keep in mind that there are other options open to you that don't involve killing your baby or jeopardizing your future. God bless you, and I hope you make the right decision for yourself.
2007-02-02 20:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by black_beauty18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but just because you are having "second thoughts" means you can just dismiss a human beings life like that? I am not trying to be nasty but there is always a way to get through this, many young mums have successfully raised a baby on their own, yes it's hard work but it sure isn't fair on your unborn baby's life for you to just let him/her go like that! And yes it IS a life, it has a beating heart, abortion is something I would never do personally. Why not try some counselling and seek some help, there is always help out there for people like you who think they won't be able to cope. I think you will regret it later in life, it will always be on your mind "what if I didn't abort my baby, what would he/she look like now" it will haunt you emotionally for the rest of your life.
And alot of people will say "it's your life it's your body do what you want" well it's not just your life and your body you have a whole other person to think about aswell, what rights are you giving your baby?
Think about it.
P.S Why did you mark my reply as a bad answer? Everything I said is valid, I was never nasty or abusive. Or do you only want people to agree with you? If you aren't going to take on board other people's advice I don't think you should ask for help, you have a very closed mind when it comes to such a sensitive topic. Good luck with whatever you do, I feel sorry for your unborn child who will never have a chance at a life he/she didn't choose to begin.
2007-02-02 20:58:58 · answer #5 · answered by Isotonic 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I have had 2 of them and i am fine with it. It did not hurt i was awake the whole time. I also have 2 other children and they are fine and i had no problem getting pregnant do what you feel is best it does cost a lot kinda about 300- $500 dollars it cost less the sooner you do it.
2007-02-02 22:12:30 · answer #6 · answered by ashley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on www. youtube.com and type in abortions.. there is a woman who has had one and she will tell you how she felt.. and a few others as well.. watch out for the video of the one that shows what a aborted fiteus looks like .. it may give you night mares.. and if your considering this i dont think you want to watch it.. i never had on so i cant tell you how it feels...but i can tell you that i went over to that site and listen to what they said.. they gave some good info
2007-02-02 20:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋