did i make my self gay?

Question

when i was 14 i wanted to see how everyone else compared to me in the crotch, now im 17 and i find i can only get up with/around guys but the fact of actually dating them makes me sick..i stil like girls and really want to have kids that a related to me...i just cant get up with/around girls...SOMEONE PLEASE help me

ok let me clear one thing up when i said that even thinking about dating a guy makes me sick so does thinking about having sex with one..its germy..

could viagra help..does it still cause blindness

Answer 1

your bi-curious, have sex with a dude see if you like it ...... at 17 if you tried having sex with a chick and you cant rise to the occasion you may be a fan of the guys !
hope u can sort yourself so your happy with what you choose

Answer 2

You can't make yourself gay. At 14, everyone is curious.

If you only get aroused around guys and by thinking about guys, you're probably gay. Having an aversion to them at the same time can be a problem, though. We who are gay tend to think is that all you need is a good man to help you sort things out, but if your family and religion brainwashed you into this fix, you may need a professional therapist to help you untangle your feelings.

There's no real rush, you know. Many people don't really establish their sexuality until college or even later. Viagra will give you an erection, but it won't tell you what to do with it. Don't get so antsy about having sex just to have it. When the right person for you comes along, I'm sure you'll have an appropriate reaction and will know who you want to be with.

Answer 3

No, you did not; I'm almost certain you were born with strong attraction to the male sex, clearly speaking you are "homosexual" which is a very strong feeling and you can't never change it, no matter how much you wished to be "heterosexual". There are instances when you may be attracted to both sexes, " bysexual", this is very rare, you may even get married and have family, and be happy on the surface, but in the long run, you always come back to being "gay" to the point that you would leave your family for someone you fall in love with; in this case, tragically, the children will be affected and you'll suffer for them and their future. I suggest you seek counseling from a " Gay Organization".

Answer 4

maybe when you were 14 you didn't realize that you might be gay someday. wanting to compare might have been a sign that you like guys. the fact that you feel sick when you think about dating them may be because you don't want to face the fact that you like guys. you want to be normal because that is what the majority of people do, but the fact is, everyone is different, don't go through your life denying that you are gay, that is if you are. if you want to have kids there is always the option of adopting, or talking to a really close girl friend that you trust, and working something out with her.

Answer 5

Perhaps when you exposed and compared with boys you were not as big as you had thought you were and perhaps you got a little intimidated, some men are very large and a normal size guy might then think he's small and get intimidated and fearful that girls, women may find him lacking in the package department. Don't worry, when you get in a secure relationship, hopefully after marriage, your body will work just fine, she will make sure of that! Your just insecure.

Answer 6

Gay as you seem to know is not a bad thing. You did not "make yourself gay", thats a weird term, but out of curiosity you may have felt like you needed. First I would look at a different side not just look at getting up with people. Maybe try going out (even one or two dates) with both genders. If you realize you are attracted to the mental side of guys and the physically try going out with them for longer.


If you really don't want to go out with a guy try hanging out with more girls, as friends. Do things like play hug them and thing like that. Get more comfortable around them. If you were really attracted to men you probably would be more confidante about this. Although it probably does take some getting used to being gay. I myself am not gay but I know a lot about it. If you really are gay you should try "being gay" and eventually get used to the fact that you are. Hope things work out well, and adopting a child from some poor country out of an orphanage is the most gratifying feeling in the world, you possibly have saved their life.

Answer 7

Lol the question was probably answered when you were 14 also. I asked myself if I was gay or not & I came up with the answer as no.

You arent gay, you just want to know if you have an avg. package or not. Dont worry, its not a big deal & you cant increase the size. What you have is that till you die :-p.

Answer 8

Are you sure you like girls or just that you feel you have to like girls? If you can only get it up with boys then I think you are probably gay. You still could have children that are biologically yours by giving your sperm to a woman you know. I know it's hard coming out and you would probably want to be like everybody else, but if your gay you have to come to terms with it. You didn't make yourself gay, you were just born that way, that's who you are. I would suggest seeing a councilor to try and come to terms with it. It's not dirty being gay, you are not abnormal for being that way.

Answer 9

i/ll bet you feel more comfortable around guys than girls .take one day at a time. don/t lable your self your a young man that dosen/t need the weight of the world on his shoulders enjoy life and love your self you are whats important. not what you do sexually

Answer 10

ive kinda got ur problom, except im still 14 lol, like, im straight (or so i think) but like ya, i wanna "compare" with guys, but dating and making out with them i wouldnt b able to do, but i can still get up around girls.