i want so bad to talk to my husband about this but i know he will deny it. also i am not to good with getting confrontational with him. i always break when we start to talk about any relationship issues. i thought about the dear john letter. i want so bad to find out what is going on. he blames no sex on his multiple sclerosis. which his doctor said you can not even tell that he has it. lonelyness sucks and i want to feel happy again.
2007-02-02 12:38:14 · 8 answers · asked by lookn4romance 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Having the MS could effect his sex drive.. Before I got MS I had the biggest sex drive ever! But after I got sex.. now I never want to.. and i have no symptoms that are horrible... he may not be gay or bi.. I know what I say isnt what you want to hear.. but I speak from personal experience.. give him a shot..and the benefit of the doubt
goodluck
2007-02-04 13:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_g_grl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all ACCEPTANCE. If you love him what does it matter? Confrontation has no place in resolving this issue. Accept each other for who you are and rejoice in your differences. only 2 unique beings can create a beautiful union. Who wants to be with someone just like them. Approach him with tender understanding. Talk to some friends or other people in the know before talking to him if you need to gain understanding. Be open, dont judge, the rift coming between you is due a lack of mutual understanding. Stop breaking. if this situation is tio woek out you need to be open and honest with each other. If all else fails try a marriage counselor to help open the lines of communication. or an accepting mutual friend as a neutral 3rd party to help get things in order.
2007-02-02 20:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by Joey D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you two have a hard time talking about and working on issues in your relationship, I'd suggest seeing a marriage counselor to help facilitate the conversation and help you two move forward.
2007-02-02 22:51:41 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy, maybe you should ask for a divorce, unless you are too comfortable in your current situation to leave it. You only have one life, so why would you want to spend it looking for love from a gay individual.
2007-02-02 20:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by latinvirgolover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key... since you don't have sex with him consider his friendship. Be honest with him... tell him you need time and space. If you can question him he will do it for you. Good luck!
2007-02-02 21:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be straightforward. Prolonging the conversation will make things worse, and give him time to think over an excuse.
2007-02-02 20:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by Slurpee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it is a good idea to talk to him about that...When i didnt accept homosexuality it was really frightening for me to think that other people may find out i was...I felt depressed just of thinking about that...It can be very frustrating for your husband to realize that other people know it
2007-02-02 21:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by whoknows 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two should see a counselor.
Are you assuming he's gay because he doesn't want sex? there could be other reasons.
If there are other signs, I'd say see a couselor.
2007-02-02 20:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by jess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋