Alright, so the first thing i'm going to say is that i'm 14 years old and i live in a calm neighbor hood in florida. eventhoguht i'm that age my mom doesn't let me go out of my condominium while she is at work. So i wan tips on how to convince her to let me go out while she is at work. I alreasy tried telling her that i'll be responsible and things liek that but she says she is scared thati 'll get into drugs or fall abnd break something. So can someone help.
2007-02-02 12:32:07 · 8 answers · asked by skater 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The best way is to prove first that you can obey her and respect her rules. Once you can genuinely do that without any attitude, she might consider it in a little while. The more you do that with anything, the more trust your parents will have in you and they will allow you more freedom. For now it's just a process of building that trust. Hang in there! ;)
2007-02-02 12:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by mtngrl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't convince her show her that you're ready and that you're able to do this on your own. I'm not saying to break her rules that she has set up for you on it. I mean do research find out the none drug and supervised things to do in your neighborhood after school and while she's at work. Ask her if you do your chores and keep your homework up if you can start going to the YMCA or a local boys and girls club after school or something like that. If she says no then ask her at what age you can have more freedom. If she says 15 then one more year isn't going to hurt you. I know the fears of being a parent is that even though you live in a safe neighborhood that the what ifs are possible and they double when you're alone esp. peer pressure. If you have a group of friends and you're not the only one saying no then you're safe. Even come up with a plan as to what friends houses you want to go to and how far away and numbers that she could call at random to make sure you are where you say you are.
2007-02-02 20:46:35 · answer #2 · answered by Tiggs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I get what your sayin coz I'm 12 and my dad's sayin that when I'm jus a little bit older about your age I can't go out AT ALL (but my mum don't care though) but the thing is they don't really mean that and usually I just try and be real nice to them so they'll let me out. So maybe you should be real nice like to her and then ask her - but there is always the easy way climb outta your window that's what I do when I'm grounded LOL. Oh yeah and one more thing yeah don't stay out too late as well I mean I usually come in around 10 or 11 but that's when I'm sittin at my doorstep with my friends but see if you come in early your mum will think you're responsible so she'll let you out when she's at work and don't forget if all this don't work just do what she says (I can't believe I'm actually typing this) because I know that parents suck the fun outta stuff but that's their job innit.
Best Of Luck
2007-02-03 14:42:24 · answer #3 · answered by needstoknow12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is just doing her job, you must respect her judgment and decisions.
She will feel a whole lot better if you go out in a group.
Ask your friends over, while she is home, and then she can ask them questions and then develop an opinion as to wether or not you would be safe with them. This will ease her feelings greately.
A parent automatically knows, upon meeting someone, if they trust them or not. If she trusts your friends - then she'll allow you to go places with them with no worries. If she distrusts your friends - then you'll either be stuck at home or you'll have to make new friends.
2007-02-03 00:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oooh know how that one feels!! im twenty now but my sister is fourteen next month.. she gets the third degree just to go to a friends house lol and it has to be arranged a week in advance lol, maybe when your mom isn't working you could ask if she could take you to the mall or something and you could go off by yourself with friends for an hour or so and slowly get her used to the idea that her lil baby is growing up, or ask her why she feels she cant trust you (careful with that one it could get guilt trippy lol) or even offer to call/txt or somehow contact her every half hour so she knows you are fine.. good luck :)
2007-02-02 20:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by jarellsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats not a smart idea you can get kidnapped. i know this is a really stupid sounding answer but im in high and when i go out to my bus stop in the morning its still dark so my mom would go with me i would always tell her "im a big girl dont come" so she stopped coming and just this morning while waiting in the dark alone on a busy street a man stopped his car and asked if i missed my bus if id like a ride . i was freaked out my bus came up right behind him but what do you think would have happened if he got mad that i wouldnt get in with him. i didnt think something like that would ever happen but moms are always right.
2007-02-02 21:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way to convince her is to earn her trust. You can't blame your mother for being protective. That's just the way mothers are ! How can you earn her trust? By doing good deeds. If your hanging out with your friends, let her know your friends.
2007-02-02 21:19:31 · answer #7 · answered by bittersweetlove21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it depends on the time... i think 7 o clock- 5 o clock is reasonable, i mean heck, wat r a whole bunch of old ppl gonna do to u???
2007-02-02 20:44:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋