If something were to happen to your spouse?

Question

would you take care of him or put him in a home?
i'm talking something to do with brain damage, i know others have different opinions on this subject, but i was just wondering if the majority of people would take the responsibility and take care of him, or if they would find it to hard to go on with life having this responsibility.

i had someone try to tell me that they would put their husband in a home because they would not really be alive and life was for the living. i just wanted to see how many people agreed with me on this topic.

i had someone try to tell me that they would put their husband in a home because they would not really be alive and life was for the living. i just wanted to see how many people agreed with me on this topic.

Answer 1

I would definitely without a doubt. I married my husband for better or worse and in sickness and in health till death we do part. I am more in love than when we married and can't imagine not having him with me everyday to see his eyes,his smile.Jis smell,his touch in any form possible. He is my everything and will be till I join him in the here after.

Answer 2

When my husband got sick - I was right there taking care of him!! But he could still get up and move a little until the very end. So..if you love someone with all your heart you want to make sure they get the best care and you feel only you can do that! Brain damage you would probably want to over see what they do - just make sure he is not brain dead. - If there is still hope the professional people know how to help him. Plus, you can not lift or move him by yourself, but you can be there to talk to him and read to him and that helps a lot.

Answer 3

I would want him at home so i could be by his side and take care of him even if i had to hire a nurse for 24 hour care i would. I would want to take responsibility as he is my husband and i love him very much and would not want him in some home away from me.

Answer 4

I would not know what to do unless I was in that situation. I want to believe I would stick it out and help take care of him but on the other hand unless you are in those shoes I would not know what I would do. It can be very hard to see your loved one not being able to respond to you the way they use to. It would depend on how severe the problem was. If he was really bad and it was hard to take care of him I would rather put him in a home so they can have professions look after him that know how to take care of him.

Answer 5

It depends on whether or not I could provide my spouse with the best care available, and whether I have the resources to give him what he needs. If I thought he'd receive better care in a home, I wouldn't hesitate to put him there.

If the situation was reversed, I'd expect the same.

Reasonably, if were the one with brain damage or some other disease that made me incapable of being a wife to my husband, I'd want him to be able to live his life fully. If I had to live in such a state, I'd want to be taken care of, but I'd also want him to be able to find happiness and companionship with another if I couldn't provide it to him.

Answer 6

I would keep him home if I could. It would really depend on the level of care he would need too.

My husbands grandfather had an aneurysm burst during surgery. He suffered major brain damage. She couldn't take him home, he needed to much care. he was on life support. Finally after 3 months they determined it was in his best interest to take him off life support and he died. When they did the autopsy, they determined he would have never improved, too much of his brain had been destroyed. It was a very, very, sad situation.

Answer 7

It depends on how bad of health he were in. If it was so bad that he needed 24 hour care then I would definetly put him in a home. My husband told me that if something like this ever happened to him to pull the plug and I couldnt do it It hurts to think that one day we have to leave this earth while our kids live on I want to live forever and stay young I love my life I dont look forward to this day coming ever.

Answer 8

I will take care of my husband as long as I can. Whether it be me by myself, or with the help of a nurse or hospice care. We've had the discussion because Alzheimer's runs in his family.
My older brother had a severe brain injury when I was a teenager. I know how hard it can be to see someone you love turn into someone else. My parents took him in when his own wife turned her back on him, and he fully recovered.
It is a hard decision to make. You have to follow what your gut tells you. It will be no good to your spouse or loved one if you can't care for them in the manner they need.

Answer 9

I would take care of my wife. In my vows I said in sickness & in health. I would do my best to take care of her at home, but if it got to the point where I was unable to care for her myself I would put her in a nursing home. She's my wife and I love her and I would take the responsibility of caring for her. If she had a request where say if she were brain dead and didn't wish to stay on life support, I would honor her wish.

Answer 10

this is one thing that you can not put a blanket on. not everyone is in the same situation. it's one of those things that has to be talke case by case depending on the circumstances.
some people are stronger than others some have more help from family and friends some have better insurance to pay for help with caretaking. some people have jobs that require them not to be at home in order to pay the bills. it all depends on the situation.
i don't think anyone can truly know what they will do until they are in that particular situation.