2007-02-02 12:26:41 · 25 answers · asked by spider_ffmedic462 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's 2007.
Go ahead and ask him.
2007-02-02 12:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by DannyK 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
My husband and I were dating for 4 1/2 years and we lived together for the last year, before he finally asked me. You'll hear all kinds of reasons from everyone in the world on this subject. He's cheating, He doesnt really love you, He doesn't want to ever marry etc....
I wondered plenty about why it would take him so long, but in
the end it was my decision that this was the person that I choose to spend the rest of my life with that kept me waiting patiently.
My patience and understanding won out and my husband is a totally different spouse then I thought he would be. He LOVES being married. It changed him for the better almost immediately. He just needed more time then I did to make that big decision.
If it's right for the both of you, then be patient and truely love the person by giving them time. It is worth it. It's for life!
If it's not right, and you really do know when it's not right, then make the decision to treasure the relationship you had with him, but move on from it.
P.S My husband finally asked me the night Bush won the Election over Gore for presidency. HE WAS SOOOO DEPRESSED! hahahha. You never know what will do it for some men!
2007-02-02 13:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by goosehds 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because they are enjoying the relationship as it is rather than focusing on "I want to get married!" Why does it matter how long he waits? What's the rush? Is it about status and competition and a big rock? Is it so you can claim and control him? Yes, the idea of getting married is EXCITING but you both have to go into it for the idea of FOREVER and what's another year or two in the rest of your life?
My guy and I have been together for almost 3 years, and we've been talking about getting married for 2 years of that time, but he hasn't asked me yet. I know in his case it's becuase he's a bit "old fashioned" and wants to know for sure he can support me, so he's waiting to get his finances under control.
2007-02-02 12:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Like the saying goes why buy the milk when you can get it for free. If you want this person to ask you to marry them then you need to have a serious talk. If he is not willing to make a commitment then why waste anymore of your time on him.
2007-02-02 13:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush? This is a huge decision that shouldn't be taken lightly. It requires a lot of time, committment, trust, love, etc. Wouldn't you want to be sure you were marrying the right person? Why marry just to marry?
2007-02-02 12:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by Groovy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men don't want to get married to the wrong person. Most of us assume that if we screw up a marriage we'll be paying her for the mistake for the rest of our lives, and that woman will cause problems in every relationship for the rest of our lives.
Men want sex the way women want commitment. Women don't usually go around being miserable thinking they want to have sex, because (unless they are hideous) it's pretty easy to get a guy to screw you. Men, on the other hand, don't go around dying for commitment, because there are plenty of women who are looking for a man to commit to them. If a man is dying for commitment, he's emotionally scared. If a woman is dying for sex (see above exception) she probably is, too.
2007-02-02 12:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by cy ko tic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That question is very biased. What is a long time to one woman may be a short time to another woman. How is the man supposed to know what the woman wants?
I know men that have proposed in less than a week of dating. Is that a long time? I didn't think so.
I think the real question should be something like this: WHy is my boyfriend taking so long to propose to me?
2007-02-02 12:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by betatesterwood 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is a lifetime decision, that's why.
Quite a decision if you ask me.
I wouldn't have wanted my husband or 3 sons to have rushed into making the decision to ask the big question.
Our sons are happily married and my husband and I will celebrate 54 years April 6,2007.
2007-02-02 12:48:24 · answer #8 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Like women me want to make sure she is the one that he wants to spend the rest of his life with. Once you get married your suppose to be w/ that one person for the rest of your life and I think that scares some men they need to make sure there isnt any other woman out there that they would rather be with.
2007-02-02 12:43:15 · answer #9 · answered by hotmoma1 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because getting married is a huge commitment. They don't want to rush into something so major!
2007-02-02 12:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by Lalaine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
statistics: the longer you date someone, the better odds of the marriage lasting. Don't be in a such a rush...you get to be with him either way so enjoy. Think about all of the lonley people out there who would love your problem.
2007-02-02 12:31:38 · answer #11 · answered by keepingitgoing 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋