Me and the soon to be ex wife went to a mediator with both our lawyer.We came up with a temporary parenting plan until our divorce date. It goes i have the kids on 5 night a week(school nights).She have them every weekend but every third week of every month the kids stay with her on a friday night thur monday morning. Summer break she have the kids all summer except the weekend.When summer break was brought up my wife yell at me
saying I'm not your maid then her lawyer ask to speak to her alone
for 30 minute.I like to to know what her lawyer might have said to her.When I add up the day I have the kids for 8 month and my wife have them 4 month out the years.My wife was upset she want more days I told her lawyer she walk out on the kids and me. I'm being nice by giving her all them days.Also your client hasn't pay her child support to me yet and she 4 months in the rears(court order).My question is will the judge change the temporary parenting plan.I have to wait 6 month until court.
2007-02-02 12:06:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should ask your lawyer about the judge. If he's worked with him before, he'll have a better idea of the judge's personalty and what you could expect. Judges have been known to do stupid things to harm the children when it comes to the mother
2007-02-02 12:11:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, what state are we talking about. Second, a standard possession order usually reads three hours during the week(typically Wed. but doesn't have to be), and every other weekend from Friday evening until Monday morning.
Usually, you alternate holidays by year. Example, this year you may have them Thanksgiving day, and the week that doesn't include Christmas. Then, next year, it switches. You wouldn't have the Thanksgiving day, and you would have them the week that includes Christmas day. You alternate spring breaks, and then she would have them for one month in the summer.
That is a simple breakdown, as it is very complex. My divorce decree is 57 pages long, and well over half of that is the possession order.
As far as child support, she will likely not have to pay the same percentage you would be forced to pay. They are also not as quick to go after women who do not fufill their obligations.(Not putting women down, that is just the reality of the system right now.)
2007-02-02 13:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you have said there is a good possibility that the judge will award you sole custody and give her limited visitation, like every other weekend and certain holidays.
I know what you are going thru cause I have been there myself. Long story short I had full temporary custody of my son until the final divorce decree and my ex could only have him for 1 day and 1 night with no school nights per week. I ended up and agreed to joint custody as I was trying to be civil. She ended up and took me back to court 3 times for sole custody and she lost 3 times.
Good luck and I hope everything goes your way.
2007-02-02 14:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by n0s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a temporary parenting plan should be signed by both parties and filed at the court. This will stay in effect until court. Good luck, men need a break when it comes to custody. My husband is fighting the same up hill battle.But never forget it is always abou the kids. What is in their best interests not yours or your soon to be ex.
2007-02-02 12:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by isellhousesinnm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A mediator just helps the two of you to come up with a resolution, but the *ssholes sometimes are a little pushy and try to stear you to what they beleive is right, not what you want.
The judge will always have final say.
Just be careful because the whole system is nothing but a greedy money trap, kinda like the legalized mafia .
2007-02-02 12:25:41 · answer #5 · answered by scott in minnesota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are being tooo generous and it will probably come back to bite you in the butt because they left that room and talked for a reason she will probably turn the whole thing around on you in court and she will get more so you better watch your back start by being un genorous and then loosen up!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-02 12:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that is stupid. you should just get the kids and not her.she the one who walked out on you and the kids. and who's suffering? you and the kids are, because your "wife" choose to walk out on you. she probably tells the kids horrible stuff about you. so hope you get your kids back..
2007-02-02 12:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by bubba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably will order the same... if she doesnt get caught up on the support before she goes to court, he will really be harsh with her!
2007-02-02 12:10:31 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋