what would u do?

Question

what would u do if your best friend & her kids wanted to come to your place for a holiday & your husband says NO, last time she came her kids were naughty & my hubby said he never wants to see them again, although she is anticipating coming back to my place next year for another holiday, i would love to have them back regardless of the kids behaviour, but i feel when she asks about coming here i'll have to make up excuses, what would u do.

Answer 1

I'm sorry to say that you should take your husbands side. It was dis-respectful of your girlfriend to let her kids act out, and your husband has the right to say that he does not want that around him during the holidays. It's more important to keep your family happy and comfortable than your friend. Not to mention that if she was able to control her children there would not be an issue in the first place.
As far as your friend goes just tell her your family wants to have a small gathering next year.

Answer 2

Your husband has already said he doesn't want her and her kids coming to stay with you, and yet here you are on yahoo asking what you should do? How about respecting your husband's wishes for starters? Tell your friend that your husband doesn't want them coming back because she can't properly discipline her children. Start with that and take it from there.

Answer 3

I think you definately need to respect your husband wishes here. Maybe you can just explain that its not a good time to have her and the kids stay at your house but you really want to visit, and ask if there is someplace else in the area she will stay, such as another friends house, or a hotel??

Good luck on that one!!!

Answer 4

Your husband is exactly 1/2 ownership of the house and you have the other half. If you ignore his wish, you are looking for trouble. Last thing you want is he leaves the house to protest your friends coming.

Ask your friend if you can help them get a hotel room nearby. Sometimes, some people are just too thick not to detect the signs that they are not welcome as guests.

Answer 5

If your husband is set against it, and does not feel like dealing with her unruly children (can't say I blame him) you need to tell her that he needs peace and quite during the holidays and it's not possible with kids running around.
If he goes, say, on a fishing trip with his buddies, maybe then she can come over, but to be honest with you, I will choose my husband over her, it's his house, too.

Answer 6

Be honest, hon..... her kids are brats, and it is your hubby's house as well... Tell her how delighted you are that she is coming, and offer to help her find a motel. If she asks why she and her children aren't asked to stay at your house, no excuse: "Gee, Doris... your children are a bit much for Fred, and tho I don't have a problem with your kids, he'd rather your children weren't here.

Answer 7

tell her your husband objects because of the kids behavior. Even though kids are kids, they should not test the limits of their host...your friends should have known better, and controlled the kids.

If your husband could go on holiday somewhere else, then you could have them, otherwise no.

Answer 8

I would say be honest with your friend. Yes, it will be painful (as we all know....honesty is not always the best b/c it hurts), but if she is your friend, then maybe she can say or do something about the children's behaviors....if she doesn't understand, try explaining it to her from your husband's point of view.

Answer 9

i would tell ur husband to go to hell u wouldnt tell him his buddies couldnt come over for the super bowl because u dont like there behavior so it souldnt be any different for ur bf and her kids

Answer 10

Talk to her about her kids. As their mother it's her job to teach them to behave.