she told me alot of s*&#@ last night on the phone that i never knew about. We've been friends for 4 yrs and i could relate to everything she had and is going though, but she won't pick up the phone tonight. I told her to call me anytime 24/7 so i can help her "cope"/talk to her but I am getting nothing??!! worried alot...husband has no clue/idea she's been thinking about this. If i go over see doesn't answer the door??!! So what do i do then??!! I feel like...??? but when i see her at work on Sunday, she asks what i did this weekend??!! She has caller id, so she knows i've called??!! HELP!!!!!!
2007-02-02 11:58:30 · 8 answers · asked by crazydoggielover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your friend is having mixed thoughts about telling you what she told you. Let her call you when she's ready. She will. Just be patient and try to understand from her point of view. And, whatever these difficult issues are, let her be the one to bring them up if she wants to again. Just listen and let her get it all out if she does. If she needs help, she'll let you know and you can decide together if and in what ways you can genuinely help her.
2007-02-02 12:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just found about this news yesterday, but your friend has obviously been thinking about this for a while. So, this is still shocking for you - and your reaction is out of shock and disbelief. But, your paranoia and frantic behavior is not helping. Leave her a message and let her know that you were just calling to see how she was doing and that she can call you back when she gets a chance. She'll get the message and will call if she wants to talk. In the meantime, stop worrying! Use that energy to pray for her!
2007-02-02 12:07:21 · answer #2 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop panicking. She is wanting space to think for herself. You may be making the situation worse by constantly calling her and 'nagging' her.
You need to be calm, cool and collected if and when she does come to you for your advise and help. You can only give and be of best support if you are calm. You can't help her if you are in a panick yourself. She will need to draw from your calm self to help balance her own inner turmoils.
Give her space. She will come to you when she needs you. Leave her a message in a very calm manner (after you have taken a deep breath) and tell her, "I am here anytime you need me."
2007-02-02 12:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by Nocturne_in_G_Major 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're that worried about her, if you think she might be suicidal, call 911 and tell them what's going on. Then pray to God that nothing is.
2007-02-02 12:03:21 · answer #4 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at work ask her "why dont you ever pick up my phone calls or answer the door?"
2007-02-02 12:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yo slow down your thinking a hundres miles an hour chill
2007-02-02 12:08:43 · answer #6 · answered by way2cooolmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her alone!
2007-02-02 12:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh?
2007-02-02 12:00:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋