I am 33 weeks pregnant with a baby girl. My husband got laid off in late November and since has been trying to run his own business. I tried to explain that to run your own business, you need money to start with (which we don't have), and the part that upsets me the most is that he didn't even talk to me about it before making this decision. So since December 1st he has been trying to run this business and this is our financial state as of now. We still owe $400 towards last months rent, and now this months rent. We owe $150 for gas, $75 for cable, $100 for utilities and we haven't even gotten the bills for this month yet. We don't even have a crib or car seat for the baby. He leaves for the day at 9-10a.m. and comes home at 11p.m.-3:00a.m. He works every day (except Sundays, which is supposed to be "our" day, but he usually works then too), so I rarely see him. I want him to get a regular job again, but he says that after this business takes off he'll be making more.
2007-02-02 11:43:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can't work because of the pregnancy so there is no fall back for us. We have no additional money coming in. I'm trying to be supportive, but it is hard when I feel like this is a ridiculous thing to do right now. Am I being too hard on him by wanting him to get a regular job or am a right for wanting him to do it? I told him to at least wait until I am working again so that way there is money coming in to fall back on, because right now we are late on all of our bills. And he says I am being selfish for wanting him to be home more often. Am I really selfish or am I right (to say that being gone 14-18 hours a day and the only time that we spend together is sleeping isn't right). I am really hurt and torn here. Can anyone help me out, what should I do? and I really the one in the wrong here?
2007-02-02 11:50:40 · update #1
With a baby on the way he should do whatever (legally) he needs to do to provide for this baby now.
2007-02-02 11:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by E-Razz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to find a regular job, and worry about his own business later. After you have the baby, and you also can work, then he could start focusing on his own business. I know that doesn't help with your situation right now though. Maybe you could get some help from the state. Even if they can't help you, they may be able to guide you towards organizations that can...such as Salvation Army...or Outreach programs. I hope the best for you, I know the stress of not being able to make ends meet and how frustrating it is to have people living in the same house, acting like it is no big deal.
2007-02-02 11:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see your point about him not discussing his intentions with you before he started his business: I'm in complete agreement with you there. On the other hand, your husband is trying to take his fate into his own hands in order to provide for you and your child. The economy is horrible, and there's no guarantee he won't be laid of from another job...and another...and another.
Of course his business may not be a success either, but he's making an honest effort, and it DOES take hard work and long hours.
As for your financial situation I'd suggest that you downsize wherever you can. As a homemaker, it's within your power to shop for bargains and eliminate that which isn't a true necessity. (Do you really need cable, for instance?)
Are you eligible for any kind of state aid, such as AFDC and food stamps? There's no shame in taking advantage of these programs. They're intended for people who have hit a rough spot in their lives, and you have a baby to think of.
For your baby's needs, try garage sales or check the classifieds in your local paper. You can frequently find items that are like brand new....or you can consult the Catholic charities in your area, who often have baby items donated to them.
Best of luck to you Hon....and remember that success seldom comes without a price.
2007-02-02 12:03:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That same thing has happened with my dad ( starting a buisness) , but it is his dream, and dreams are hard to give up.
do you have a job? If you dont maybe you should consider getting one, and have a sitter to watch the baby. I think it would help alot. And your husband WONT just give up on his buisness, so PLEASE suppport him, beacause if he has more confidence his buisness just might REALLY start taking off! If you cant afford your rent, maybe try staying with a friend for alittle. and try not to use electronics as much, like turning the lights off when you arent using them, not leaving the t.v. on. not using the AC if u really dont need, it and might even consider giving up cable. U will still get great shows, and it will really help lower your billls. And, if u dont pay your bills off soon it may cause some trouble, my parents got a divorce. I am not sure if it was just that though.
Hope I helped!:)
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2007-02-02 12:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so, he's NOT MAKING MONEY? and he's gone 18 or so hours a day? OH COME ON!
what IS he doing?
2007-02-02 11:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋