My parents just split up and I don't to know if what I am feeling is normal. Every thing negitive has happened. Is it luck???
2007-02-02 11:34:38 · 25 answers · asked by God+JB=<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im in middle school if my parents split up id probably go down dinile ir whatever until i finaly killed myself
2007-02-02 11:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by Justin H 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Kids should react like they react. It is not luck. It is life. Sometimes life is a real chaIlenge, but this too will pass, I promise. Tomorrow the sun will come up and life will go on no matter how bad today is, so hang in there and keep yourself busy doing something positive to deal with the stress. I imagine a kid would be sad, mad, angry, scared, and a whole host of things, and yes, that would be normal. They could be relieved and glad and THAT would be normal. A FEELING is never abnormal. What you do with the feeling is the thing. Make sure to take good care of yourself and find someone you respect and trust to lean on as you adjust to what's going on, okay? You'll be okay--really.
2007-02-02 19:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, from the beginning stage u might feel negative, depressed, sad and wondering why this bad luck is happening to u, it is the same way to when my parents first divorced in 1984 when i was only four. can't u imagine ? but dear...things won't b so bad if u think positively. undeniable that parents responsibility is important too after they divorced...in my case, my parents always bring me and my brother out whenever there is a chance, so that both of us(my brother and i) have close relationship until now...they always tell us that their seperation are for the best of themselves as they are not happy to b together, they send the massage in the positive way, never talk bad about each others in front of my brother and i, so i still have the connection there, i feel that my parents have done a good job.
as a kid, nothing u can do much. only one advice from me...plz think positively and learn to be independence as it will help u in ur growing...your parents always want u as their child, only that their love is no more there for each others but it still stick with u...try to b an understanding daughther.
2007-02-02 19:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by ~~simply me~~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a very difficult time for all involved. I pray that the parents are thoughtful about your feelings and don't start using you as a weapon to hurt the other. Be mindful that some parents do this. Just continue to love both and try to be supportive. At the same time talk to them about how you are feeling too.
2007-02-02 19:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you may feel all sorts of diffrent feelings, all I'm sure are normal, I was about 10 when my parents split, and at that time I didn't fully understand the impact it would have, once I realized what was actually going on I was sad, then sometimes I was mad. Please don't think for one second it is your fault. Be open with your parents and your feelings, talking about it will help.
2007-02-02 19:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by jaamat6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids typically are going to feel like it is their fault that their parents seperated but indeed it isn't your fault whatsoever, normally you will become more withdrawn from them and your friends, if your parents are smart to realize the effects that divorce has on kids they will have a close relationship now that they are seperated otherwise it will be a challenge for you. I advise looking for some type of support groups for teens of divorced parents.
2007-02-02 19:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by J S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Short of abuse, I see no reason why two people would get married, have children, and then decide 10 years later (or more) that they no longer want to be married. It's horribly selfish. My parents got divorced when I was 16 for no other reason than because they thought the grass was greener on the other side. So in my opinion, you have every right to be bitter. It's YOU who suffers, not them. After all, they got what they wanted.
2007-02-02 20:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off..... their divorce has nothing to do with you, or your brothers and sisters. It's ABSOLUTELY NOT YOUR FAULT that they can't seem to get along with one another. Most people get married with the intention of staying together for a lifetime. They have kids... and then later on, for a lot of different reasons, they can have a hard time staying in love with one another. I'm sure that they both love you very much, and that makes it very hard for them to deal with breaking up. I'm sure they don't want your feelings hurt during all of this, and I hope they don't argue and fight in front of you. If you're having a hard time dealing with it.... maybe you could talk to your school counselor to try to understand and deal with it better. Keep your chin up.....you'll get through this, and you'll be OK.
2007-02-02 19:50:49 · answer #8 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Anything is okay for you to experience, just as long as you DON"T BLAME YOURSELF! My parents split when I was about 10, and I was very sad. I cried a lot, but I just tried to remember that they would eventually talk to each other peacefully again, and that it wasn't my fault.
2007-02-02 19:39:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally havent went through it but I am sure its tough. just know its not your fault and that both of your parents love you very much. It will take time to adjust to the fact that they arent together anymore some couple just drift apart but if they ever did anything right it was you.
2007-02-02 20:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by hotmoma1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happens a lot just realize it is out of your control , and you are not to blame. Try to be strong and try to keep up a healthy relationship with both your parents if possible.
2007-02-02 19:36:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋